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I’m Free!

Something else worth remembering … and that is that without story, we are FREE! Free to do whatever we want. Here are some options I might choose from … … I can project my story out and react unconsciously to it, blaming the world around me for the backlash effect that comes from living my limiting story out in vivid technicolor. (When we are living

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Loved Ones Who Refuse to Indulge Our Moods

Yes, it’s nice when our loved ones are consoling and understanding when we are down … but not necessary! And it can even be a way of reinforcing victim hood when those we love get on board with the idea that life has been unfair or unjust to us and we therefore deserve to feel down. Daniel (my husband) has consistently refused to indulge me

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From Victim To Freedom

I understand how difficult this concept that we are at the mercy of life is to shift … Let me elaborate even more…. Yes, things change in life … there are losses and transitions … things fall apart and break and die … all of this is true. It’s reality. I certainly don’t mean to imply that we should or shouldn’t have feelings about any

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When Life Events Dictate My Mood ….

Here’s another commonly shared idea … “The more I heard about how much it was going to cost … the worse I felt.” How do you feel and react when you tell yourself that your mood is determined by some outside factor, like a bill for your house or your car? Or your dentist or the children’s education? When our feelings are determined by external

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Seeing the World through a Victim Lens

As long as we believe thoughts like; “They did it to me”, we will be stuck in a story that produces suffering. Seeing the world through a lens of what others have done to us is a primary characteristic of victimhood (see “Faces of Victim“). The ego is that part of us that sees the world through the victim lens. Believing that others can cause

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