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Victory Over Victim: Giving Up the “I Give Up” Mindset

photo credit: alicepopkorn ( in and out ) “I give up” is an insidious mind set that robs us of life on every front. Instead of claiming victory for our lives, this mind set establishes us as losers who settle for scarcity, poor health and unhappy circumstances. I’ve worked with clients who started giving up on life as children, inch by inch, so that by

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Victimhood Is Our Made-Up Stories About Reality

photo credit: ladyb Every day is filled with opportunities for us to practice consciously choosing our responses to life. Rather than reacting habitually out of old patterns of belief we chose, instead, to be awake; we are watchful for times when our unconscious thoughts & words land us in a state of victimhood. I often remind my clients that landing in a state of victimhood

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Victim Mind is Fear Based

 photo credit: prudencebrown121 Fear is the driving emotion when we are in victimhood. Regardless of what role on the Victim Triangle we may be operating out of, fear predominates because victimhood comes out of fear based thinking. In life there are two prevailing emotional frequencies: “Love” or “Fear.” Every feeling falls into one or the other of those two categories. Emotional responses generated by fear

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Are You Promoting Autonomy or Dependence?

photo credit: photographerpandora How do we find the balance between codependent “rescuing” and “cold detachment”? This is a question we must ask anytime we step into a service oriented relationship with another. It is the question we must ask at every level – from our personal relations right up to the level of national and international affairs. Whenever we face a decision about “helping” others

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The Victim Triangle

Do you know that every time you blame something or someone outside yourself for your unhappiness that you are seeing yourself as a victim? This way of perceiving the world is what creates all of our mental and emotional misery. We see the world through a victim lens every time we think something outside of us is causing our unhappiness There are three aspects or

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