There’s been a pattern put in place by a thought. It is held in place by that thought stream of energy. (I am fat … sick ….etc) and there is an incessant “voice” that speaks constantly to us to cooperate … (You are fat … sick, etc) in the proving of it. And so we do.
“If we don’t invest our troublesome thoughts with the full support of believing in them, then we don’t have to ACT like we believe them. And that changes everything. 🙂
I wanted to comment on something I heard a client say recently … She said, “… I have to stop thinking negative thoughts ….”
While it is true that it is through being more gentle and kind to ourselves that a more loving relationship can be obtained… it is also important to ask; How in the world does one go about “stopping” negative thoughts?
I, for one, have never been able to control my thoughts. They come … they go.
To expect myself to stop thinking anything seems very self-defeating – simply because it’s impossible!
What I can do, however is make such negative self-talk conscious and notice what happens when I believe these insane and unkind ideas about myself. I can ask myself if they are true and look at what would be different if I didn’t believe them. This allows me to put space between me and these hurtful beliefs and with that comes freedom and peace.
Trying to get rid of my unwanted thoughts simply sets up internal resistance. Instead I can choose to recognize low frequency feelings and connect those emotions with the thought behind it for the purpose of learning what the limiting belief is.
I can “up” my frequency by asking myself what more loving way there might be of seeing myself or the situation … how can I be more kind towards myself?
Being kinder to yourself means accepting even your unkindness.
Here’s another example of how outer reflects the inner….
Parking for the Convention Center is in a several storied garage … when I returned to the seminar I was attending after lunch on Saturday, I ended up parking on the very rooftop of the garage since it was so full.
But it wasn’t until that evening after the seminar ended that I discovered the real reason I’d been parked so far away … all the way up on the rooftop in the open air ….
We had been doing qigong all day, “gathering chi” (Chi is a chinese word meaning energy and is often depicted in Chinese art as fog or clouds). I was feeling calm and centered. My thoughts were still very much in processing mode about the day as I made my way down the hallways and up the elevator to the top of the parking garage. As I got off the elevator and turned the corner to walk towards my van, I found myself facing and walking straight into the most beautiful sunset!
Being above the buildings all around and facing Lookout Mountain, there sat the sun shining in brilliant gold and pinks with huge fluffy clouds puffed out all across the sky and in front of it. It took my breath away.
Immediately I thought of it as a refection of my inner state and mused, “How appropriate – this sunset is a right-on depiction of my own inner reservoir of beautiful chi.”
I still marvel over such simple demonstrations of the miraculous workings of the Mind. How awesome is it that I was parked right where I would get the chance to see my own inner calmness so tranquilly reflected to me by the sky? I got to see a visible image of my own state of chi by looking at the sunset. This is the sort of magic I have begun to experience daily as I experiment with seeing the world as a constant mirroring of my own present state of consciousness.
I invite you to sample the Universal Abundance in similar ways.
Welcome to my blog … you are welcome to read along as I share stories of life and consciousness unfolding.
It seems appropriate that I would start today, Feb. 26th 2007 … since it is mine and Daniel’s 13th anniversary as a couple. He is such a big part of my consciousness journey. I see relationship as a sacred path designed to shape and evolve us, as individuals and life partners. Being in relationship has been a primary growing medium for me; it accelerates growth by bringing my “stuff” quickly to the surface. For me, nothing has inspired, rewarded or challenged me more than living in intimate contact with another. It’s a beautiful path and I’m grateful to have Daniel to walk with me on it.
In relationship, we inevitably end up stepping on toes and/or feeling run over by the other. I’ve noticed that these are often the times that have motivated me to make changes I would not otherwise have even considered. Daniel has mirrored aspects of my self to me that I might never have discovered otherwise. Certainly relating with Daniel brings rich gifts and deep learning encounters. I continue to learn from such happenings long after they’ve occurred… everytime I reflect upon one for the purpose of seeing Reality, I gain a deeper Understanding of Life.
I find it helps to see hardship and challenge as opportunities for increased consciousness instead. Negative thinking creates mental and emotional resistance that we experiene as pain. But resistance or pain can play an important part in fostering consciousness too … because it points out my stuck patterns and shows up my distorted thoughts. (link it) These thoughts, which have become hard-core beliefs about self and the world, have been made valid through repetition. That’s right … simply repeating the same insane thing to myself over and over for years got me believing these self-told lies so thoroughly that I still sometimes act like they’re true! And what’s more, when I act as if these old stories are real, the world immediately reacts back in ways that prove to me that I’m right! — that what I believe IS true. It’s amazing to watch this happen over and again now that I’ve caught on to how it works.
This is a story about who “me” is and how the world is and who you are to me. It’s a story that I’m addicted to believing, even as distorted and misery-making as it is. There are three ingredients involved in the make up of my “me” story (also called ego). First ingredient is a, perhaps long consciously forgotten, but painful emotional imprint or “wound”. The second ingredient is the actual mental fabrication (the story) that I made up as a child about the wound and what it means and the third ingredient is the defenses that were created to protect “me”. My ego runs me often. It’s primary fuel is resistance.
And what is resistance? It’s any thought or reaction that creates inner disharmony (resentment, guilt, judgment, anxiety, even self-righteousness). The unhappy feelings are generated when the old stories are being mentally run. Knowing this has allowed me to start seeing the internal stress as a finger pointing to where I’m stuck in the old story. Rather than looking outside of myself for a “fix”, I practice following feelings of discomfort in, turning my attention to the inner reality in order to find resolution. In other words, when I have a negative reaction, I know it’s about me! Every time!
That may sound harsh, but I find it’s really good news. It makes me a causative factor rather than a victim of life circumstances. Besides, it’s wonderful to recognize that the world around me is simply a big wondrous mirror, designed to perfectly reflect to me my internal state.
You will find posted here ongoing experiences in the process of self-awareness – a journey in thought unfolding that may vary widely from entry to entry. Whatever is “up” for me when I sit down to blog might well find itself exposed in these pages. So thanks for visiting … take what fits and leave your thoughts and comments too … I welcome them.