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The Problem With Looking For A Problem

In victim consciousness there are three roles we play that all come from a perspective of blame (a primary characteristic of v.c.). One of the roles is the Rescuer. World Rescuers constantly look for problems that need to be fixed – without realizing the ”problem” they create (for themselves especially) when they give so much focus to problems. (what we focus innhets bigger) We could

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“But if I don’t do it, then who will?”

For years I tumbled through life, going at breakneck speed, trying to do at once all the things on my list that one must accomplish in the role of wife AND mother AND career woman, etc. etc… I was always banging myself up in my frenzied movements from chore to chore, and never made the connection between my constant physical mishaps and the demanding, guilt-ridden,

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Persecuting ourselves on the victim triangle

Hopefully we are growing in awareness of how we play out the victim triangle in our relationship with others. But are we as aware of how we play out the victim triangle internally with ourselves? As I questioned who I become when I believe the thought that I should be different, I saw how I move through all three roles on the victim triangle in

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Manipulating others to fit our idea of perfection

photo credit: Perfecto Insecto But what literally brought me to my knees that evening in the garden that I have been speaking to you about in the last several posts was the realization of how it is I treat others when I am engaged in the self-destructive cycle of trying to make me different, i.e. “right for God!” I saw how I speak and treat

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To Survive or To Save Others

photo credit: gogoloopie There’s a difference between what I call a starting gate persecutor and the persecutor role a rescuer plays as they trek around the triangle. It is this: A starting gate persecutor lives out of a deep-seated conviction that attack is the only way to survive. A starting gate rescuer in the role of the persecutor is a rescuer who feels frustrated because

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