Emotional and spiritual progress is a relative thing – unique to each individual. Consciousness grows in proportion to how well we relate to ourselves. The more we accept ourselves for where we are on our journey, the faster consciousness expands.
We can measure the degree of self acceptance we have by noticing how much less we negatively judge ourselves and others. Critical judgment diminishes in relation to self acceptance. When we find ourselves thinking harsh thoughts about others (or ourselves) we know that there's something “up” in our mind that's needing forgiveness and release.
The ego likes to undermine our progress through self deprecation when we recognize something that's less-than-perfect about ourselves. Instead of celebrating consciousness, we berate ourselves instead. It's not about being perfectly conscious (that's just another competition)… or never reacting out of story. It's about being aware when we react out of unconsciousness, so that we can continue the awesome process of liberating our minds from the beliefs that have kept us limited.
Our task is to learn to move in quickly on times there is a stressful reaction in us and recognize it as the doorway to freedom that it is. Let's learn to treat ourselves with gentle kindness so this we can celebrate self revelation.
Self-revelation leads to self-realization.