With Kids, Every Moment is a Teaching Moment,

photo credit: h.koppdelaney I’ve spent the last ten days traveling with my grandchildren, my daughter, another young mother with her children, and Daniel. It was a working vacation for us, and I can imagine the look of disbelief in your eyes when I say that it was wonderful! Our trip was well-planned (thank you, D!) and leisurely, designed to incorporate the needs of both the

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Helping Our Children Accept Reality

photo credit: Leonid Mamchenkov We seem to have an ingrained attitude of resistance to reality. As parents, this resistance to reality shows up dramatically when we find ourselves automatically resorting to attempts to shape our children’s reality according to their preference. We really seem to think that our job as good parents is to make our children’s lives happy by adjusting their world to suit

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Being Responsible To Our Children

photo credit: piu sen In my previous post I described what it is to assume responsibility for our children. Let’s now look at the kind of parents we are when we are responsible to our children. (This post was taken from my weekly “Victim Vocabulary” series ) Being responsible to our children means we understand that they are not our possessions. They do not belong

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When We Take Responsibility FOR Our Children

photo credit: Leonid Mamchenkov Understanding exactly what it means to be responsible to our children, as opposed to assuming responsibility for them, is an all important part of supporting their journey towards an independent life. Assuming responsibility for our children does not encourage their autonomy, whereas being responsible to them does. Read the follow up post to compare the difference between these two approaches. (This

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Taking Sides – Contrast through Conflict

Sometimes we are put in situations of contrast. This is part of the Universal design. How do I know that? Because it’s in alignment with the Law of Polarity and the Law of Cause and Effect. A situation of contrast is one in which the opposite sides of an issue are both active in our lives, so that we find ourselves experiencing both simultaneously. For

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