Often we may feel compelled to compare ourselves to others as a way to evaluate our progress. To do so is defeatist however, simply because it is not how we are doing in relation to others that essentially matters.
Such comparisons tell us nothing really – they cannot give us a realistic measure of where we are on our life journey at all, and instead only serve to create inner and outer disharmony.
The real measure of where we are in life is based on our right alignment and relationship with Source. Comparing where we are presently in our relationship with Source in contrast to previous times is the only comparison worth making.
To make that contrast, we ask ourselves questions like these: am I practicing the basic guiding principles in all my affairs? Am I following the instructions I receive through my daily dialog with Source? Am I doing what Source nudges me to do, no matter how that may look to others? Am I more interested in following inner ‘orders' than I am in outer approval?
The answers to questions such as these show us a true measure of our own personal progress. If we are living the spiritual truths and following the will of Source then we are progressing on our spiritual path regardless of how we look on the surface in comparison to others.
When we are rightly related to Source, we may attain the highest spiritual pinnacle – that of not being personally seen by others at all! Instead of being dazzled by our individual brilliance, or by our superiority as a person, what others see when they look at us is the power of Source shining through us all the time! They don't see our personality selves – they experience Source through us instead.
When we are rightly related to Source we become so immersed in, so absorbed by, the effulgence of that energy that we no longer notice what others may or may not be thinking about us! We stop relating to others in terms of what they may see or think of us. We have thoroughly lost ourselves over to the flow of Source energy that moves through us. We have become joyful witnesses of the life Source is expressing through us and there is no personal “self” left to compare to others! Only Source – no little “me.” Nothing else matters.
When following the promptings of Source is our number one motivating factor we lose interest in the need for the rest of the world to approve.
We lose interest in our visibility in the world – our interest in ‘self' all but disappears. We have become so identified with Source that Spirit is all that others see when they look in our direction. There is no self-consciousness about who we are or what we do. We simply serve Source to our fullest and we reap the joy, the peace, the bounty that comes as a natural result of that. Instead of self-confidence we exhibit Source-confidence!
Such thoughts and words as these are scary to our Victim-ego who thinks it must stand out as separate from others to be important, or to matter. It has no desire to serve Source, it wants only to be served. But that is a path of abject misery and pain. In Reality to lose ourselves to Source is the greatest relief and the most powerfully fulfilling thing we can possibly do! It is the real definition of personal and spiritual freedom.
May you find it so.