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“Carried Feelings” or “Inherited Story?”

photo credit: Daquella manera Often in therapeutic circles we speak of “carried feelings,” a concept that refers to how clients appear to carry the unresolved feelings of one of their family members. For example, we may say that someone is “carrying” their dad’s anger or their mother’s sadness. I have often seen evidence of this sort of emotional transference. But upon closer examination, I have

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Attention is an Energetic Fertilizer …

There is a Guiding Principle that says that what we pay attention to expands. Our attention acts as a sort of “mental fertilizer” by “feeding” whatever it is we pay attention to; it therefore must increase. This is true whether we are giving it negative attention or positive; both forms of attention prompt increase. Berating or criticizing someone for a bad habit, for instance, fixates

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Are you”wigging out”?

When you find yourself “wigging out” over some life happening … here are a few reminders on how to regain sanity … Breathe deeply … ground and center … write your painful thoughts down and take them through Byron Katie’s four questions and turn around. Thoughts like; “… I’m being held back”, “The world is trying to keep me down”, “I don’t deserve better …

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“Wigging Out” in Life ….

When you find yourself “wigging out” over some life happening … here are a few reminders on how to regain sanity … Breathe deeply … ground and center … write your painful thoughts down and take them through Byron Katie’s four questions and turn around. Thoughts like; “… I’m being held back”, “The world is trying to keep me down”, “I don’t deserve better …

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Following The Questions In To Forgiveness ….

Self abuse is a place where many of us get stuck …Learning to forgive and accept ourselves, especially if we’re not living up to some notion we have about what we’re supposed to be like, is not something many of us know how to do very well. It’s good to remember … any kind of low frequency emotional reaction is simply an alert that indicates

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