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Making The Bad Into Something Better …. All For The Sake Of Refinement …

There are times when we may feel emotionally or verbally attacked by a friend or family member “out of nowhere.” Or perhaps you’ve watched yourself act out in a painful, destructive way. Why do we suddenly strike out in such ways?  To put it simply,  it’s because the unhappy story, which we assume is true, gets triggered. And when it does, we go into defense

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Using the Aikido of Consciousness to Side-Step Blame

photo credit: Eddi van W. The observer self is that neutral inner space that allows us to recognize that people tend to automatically react from their own unconscious patterns of belief, rather than because of us. This knowledge makes it possible for us to stop making their reactivity about us. This means we can stop taking the doings and sayings (and all the reactions) of

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Manipulating others to fit our idea of perfection

photo credit: Perfecto Insecto But what literally brought me to my knees that evening in the garden that I have been speaking to you about in the last several posts was the realization of how it is I treat others when I am engaged in the self-destructive cycle of trying to make me different, i.e. “right for God!” I saw how I speak and treat

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