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Living My Process In “Real” Time …

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My life has always been an educational experience. I have come to see that we never arrive at a place of completion in life because life is like a fast river that is ever flowing towards us; it brings to us, in its flowing stream, the challenges and obstacles that are perfectly age appropriate for us in the moment. I remember as a young mother thnking that no sooner than I get my child to, say, age two, when suddenly they are three, and a whole new strategy, relevent and specific to that age, is needed. If felt like I was always having to learn new strategies to apply to the present moment, and having to let go, as irrelevant, the strategies of yesterday.  I have found this to be true in all arenas of my life. Now in my sixties, I find myself again, treading water, trying to navigate new, and often turbulent waters, in an effort to bring myself up to speed on dealing with life as a senior citizen. Not just the aging part either, but similtaneously learning to make peace with decisions I made in my recent past that turned my life topsy-turvey in a completely upside down way.

I was 64, a time in life when one is “supposed” to be settled down, with the one we have settled down with, for the “last stretch” of life. There are rumors that this time of life is “supposed” to be easy,  moving at a slower pace, where one enjoys the harvest of ones life, so to speak.  Many of my friends are married and seem to be biding their time, waiting to fulfill their vow, of “til death do us part,” I, on the other hand, chose to leave my marriage of 23 years, because I would not/could not make peace with settling for less than I wanted in relationship.

We had an amicable toleration policy between us that we put in place in the very beginning, back when that somehow sounded like a good idea to me, perhaps because I didn't take it too seriously. But then I discovered that I wanted more. I found myself aching to feel reached for, to be desired, and yes, quite frankly, adored. Anyway I definitely wanted more than to just be tolerated. But that was not in the bargain we made and it only made things sticky between us whenever I brought the subject up, The longer I lived with our agreement the more intolerable toleration became for me – until finally I moved on.

I am not going to pretend that I have not many times considered the possibility that I made a “wrong turn” by leaving. It certainly seems it might well have been easier if I had stayed and made the best of it – after all it was not all THAT bad,  but then again, I've never been one to settle for things. So I chose to go. Besides there is an inner knowing that whispers to me (when I am willing to listen) that “wrong turns” are sometimes the only way to bring us into right alignment.

But that does not mean I have not suffered from a lot of guilt and remorse for daring to violate the status quo of a marriage that, by many standards, was a good and stable one …  And there were many who judged me for breaking our marriage vows. But in the end, I realized that my husband appeared as glad to see me go as I was to leave. Not that there was terrible animosity between us – as a matter of fact, we are friends still, comfortable in one another's presence; perhaps we are even better friends now than before – certainly there is much less struggle on my part to get something that was not there to be had, and that has made it easier to be with each other again.

Since leaving the marriage, I have realized that the judgment I felt from others was really simply reflecting the voice of accusation that was living in my own head. My leaving has had ramifications on many levels. Blaming myself for leaving a marriage that wasn't overtly abusive, that didn't threaten my safety, or cause me to suffer, left me feeling undeserving of a better life  – and  so the things I left the marriage to open the way for, became the very things I would not allow myself to have. I believed on some deep archaic level that I didn't deserve to be happy, so I punished myself with negativity and poor choices that left me with little to show for my years of hard work as I moved into retirement.

A sense of self-rejection such as I had never before experienced left me feeling lost and isolated. Even my business suffered to the point that I found myself unable to supply the niceties I had grown used to in my accustomed lifestyle. I had to make hard choices, and simplify my life in ways I had not had to experience since I was in my twenties. My ego took a hard knock, and I began to see myself through different eyes. But slowly, like the phoenix rising from the ashes, I came to see how necessary all of this was for me. It has been a long slow process of shedding grandiose ideas of myself, and of who I thought I was in the world. Moving to a city where no one knew me, was unsettling and it opened me to humility, often through the doorway of humiliation. Insisting on living according to the principles I teach meant forcing myself to see all of this as somehow good and necessary for me, or else resort to seeing myself as a victim on the victim triangle. So again and again I reminded myself that my life is a necessary initiation; that it was meant to be FOR me … Slowly I discovered things about myself that I would never have known if I had not ventured out of the safe, but stifling cocoon of stagnacy that my former life had become.

In spite of the much suffered regret, I can say today, now 2+ years since leaving my marriage, that I am grateful for the journey of self-revelation that this whole process has taken me through. No, it has not been easy, but I remind myself many times that being easy does not automatically mean better; it often takes contrast in life to help us to better recognize what is most important to us. Life challenges either grow us by showing us who we really are, or they flatten us. I have never been one who is willing to be flattened by life. From early on in life, my priority has been self-discovery at any price, and personal expansion and personal freedom has taken precedence over security and safety,

I continue to learn  … exponentially it seems. I am learning how to find happiness in the simplest things; a sunny day, the breeze in my hair, a curious duck on the pond, my kitten curled up in my arms, or a bike ride with a friend – life is SO rich even when my pockets are empty. And I have found that my work is again returning to full thrive in the midst of it all. My personal journey has provided me with more compassion, perhaps I am even more authentic today as I sit with those, who like me, are simply in the midst of their own intense life initiation. I have learned what it is to struggle and question, and to go down in the trenches, and I often speak to myself through you.

I am learning through the challenges of these past two years how to move beyond self-toleration, and that is a marvelous thing. I have accepted the challenge of forgiving myself, realizing there is really nothing to forgive me for , unless it is somehow a crime to seek ones hearts desire. This growing sense of self-accpetnace for choices I made in the past allows me to finally move beyond that past to a fresher perspective of what is today … and I am getting better all the time at shifting my thoughts away from the old negative spin, and better able to focus on the gifts in the grit. I am finding the blessings in my life lessons, even the hard ones, and I find that regret vists me less and less often.

Recently I had a dream that seemed to sum up my recent journey:

I was trying to escape from negative spirits (my judgments, and fears)  who were chasing me and my baby (representing my new life). There was a school building (representing the learning process of my life journey) between me and the parking lot where my get-away car (vehicle for moving on with my (baby) new life) was parked. I had a choice to make: I could take the long way around the building but I knew that I would have to fight off the negative spirits (painful beliefs I carry) to get to my car and I wasn't willing to go the distance it would take  (to stay in my marriage perhaps?) So I decided to take the shorter route through the school building – even knowing that I would have to face the ghosts from my past which I could see roaming past the windows and through the halls inside the school. Standing in the door and holding it open for me was a headless friend, (perhaps he, like me, had “lost his head” by opting to take the short cut thrugh the doubts and fears intensified by my past.) Even though I was afraid of dealing with him and my past, I knew that choosing to struggle through the school (my initiation) was going to be the shortest, most direct route to moving on with my new life (baby). Perhaps I chose, by cutting through the school building, to face my fears, my doubts, and my unresolved judgments from past choices to get to the other side.

This dream brought me relief somehow,  perhaps because it reinforced the idea that my choice to leave the marriage was my way of forcing myself to deal with the ghosts of my past.  It suggested that my journey through the past two years has been an initiation, rather than a mistake; that it has been purposeful in opening me to self-forgivness and a necessary process for releasing my past.

I may have more facing of my past yet still to be done. I am ok with my journey being what it is today. But what I know right now is this: Everything we experience has purpose and it is therefore FOR us. And knowing that gives me great hope for the new life that lies ahead – for me – and for you.

Blessings, Lynne

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Sharing The Lineage That Was Passed Down To Us …

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Like many of you, my journey started out in major dysfunction. I was the second of three, the child who would never amount to anything …” or so the story was about me in my family which was filled with addiction and rage. However, as in all things, there was a saving grace that saw me through. That saving grace was my mother's faith in things unseen which she had acquired from her own mother and her refusal to buy into the religious doctrine that was widely touted as the one and only Truth by the world around her. As a copy-editor for a fairly large publishing company, she had access to every kind of book imaginable and she shared her love for reading with me. She introduced me to metaphysics at the age of seven, and by the time I was twelve I was reading all I could find on topics such as Eastern philosophy, spirituality, spiritual masters, and the study of the etheric body.

Armed with these ideas, but ungrounded in living a practical life based on Reality, I launched full throttle into the throes of drug addiction and experiencing dysfunctional relationship. My first child, a son, was born when I was a sixteen year old bride – with my daughter following close on his heels. My life continued to spin out of control. As crazy, drama and trauma filled as those times were, I knew enough to know that nothing was by accident, that I was in dark waters for the pure experience of what it is to live in the dark, murky places, both within myself and in the world around me. And I was an eager student of life.

I was hired by a Health Maintenance Organization (based on the Kaiser-Permanente model) to work with clients, who like myself, had been living in dire circumstances brought on by addiction, disease, and or poverty, and it was while doing the intensive on-the-job training they offered their employees that I first encountered the “Drama Triangle,” by Dr Stephen Karpman, Phd. Little did I know at the time how instrumental that tool would prove to be in my own awakening as well as in my work with others.

It was years later, after a year spent living on the streets of Berkeley, California, under the tutelage of a man who called himself a Native American Medicine Man and that I called, “Natamenaha,” that my intense Awakening began. Natamenaha gave me challenging assignments, such as moving out of my small, cozy apartment, and onto the street, and solitary sojourns of up to a week at a time in the desert, where I ate from what I foraged, observed silence, and digested peyote buttons for the visions it brought. By the time Natamenaha disappeared forever from my life (which he prepared me all along for happening) I had become a visionary – with a long way still to go.

During the year of 1980 I was encouraged by my dad, a by-then, recovering alcoholic, to go through a 28 day A & D treatment program in Chattangooga, Tn. And so my best friend, a dog named Little Bear, and I, hitch-hiked to Tennessee to start a new and sober life.

By then, I was 28 years old, my children had been “farmed out” to various family members while I pulled my act together, and the 12 step program of A.A. and N.A. helped me do just that. The program brought me the 12 Steps to follow as a guideline, and it was then that I began to integrate the spiritual principles from my childhood handed to me by my mother with the practical application of the 12 Steps. For the first time I began to find the grounding I'd been lacking. I brought my family together and within a year started working in the A & D treatment field. Before I knew it I was helping other addicts find their way back from the depths of addiction and shame to a new place of hope and a fresh start. My work in the world was launched, and by 1985 I established my own private coaching practice which continues to this day, some 30+ years later.

During these many years of working closely with individuals, families, institutions, and groups, I evolved a combination of the best of what I had been given in my work with others. From years of working in Mental Health, of 12 Step Addiction Work, and Family Systems work, as well as from years of working with Co-dependents in treatment, and then delving into Transpersonal Work with Jacquelyn Small and Stanislav Grof, and many types of Journey work, such as Rebirthing and Shamanism, I finally combined it all with the Ancient Principles originally handed down to me by my mother, and her mother before her. It was these “Guiding Principles of Reality” about how the mind and manifestation work to provide us with our own individually unique experience of the world that has given my Work a solid foundation. And THAT knowledge and practical experience from so many years of not only helping others live it on the ground, but of applying it to my own life experience that I offer to you.

Together with my son, Andrew Guilfoil, and my daughter, Jaquetta Jancewicz, who have received the Truths passed down to me from my mother and her lineage, we offer our service in sharing these same Guiding Principles that teach us principles to live by for instilling peace and acceptance in a world of growing upheaval and personal challenge. You will learn about how your thoughts become your personal reality, and with that knowledge how to aim your mind towards thoughts that transform your life for the better.

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A Friend Shares Tips For Recovery

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I share this article with you written by Rufus Carter because it brought up for me my own memory of those early days in my recovery when I was transitioning from the old life of addiction, shame and misery and shifting into a whole new way of seeing myself and my life.

I remember having no idea of who this newly emerging self was; all I knew was that the old lifestyle no longer fit. I remember feeling as it I was trying to find the right wardrobe to fit a self that no longer looked, felt, or acted as it once had, and feeling uncomfortable in the old self, but not quite comfortable in the new either.

I found these tips to be helpful for those of you, who like me, have found yourself caught in the throes of rebirthing a new life. Lynne

 

Thriving Through Recovery: 
Tips for Finding Your Fresh Start

by Rufus Carter

Your recovery needs to be your top priority, and when you’re new to your program, life can be overwhelming. Recovery is the most important journey you will ever take in your life. And along with that path, you need to find means for making a living. A flexible yet stable position can help you thrive, leaving the old you behind and embracing what is fresh and new.

Explore Your Possibilities

When you’re new to recovery, a job that is adaptable to your therapy schedule, fulfilling, and earns sufficient income can mean success. Thanks to the gig economy, the possibilities are nearly endless. USA Today points out that side gigs can be started with minimal investment, and the opportunities can mesh nicely with your interests, needs, and abilities; you can pursue anything from dog sitting to musical instrument lessons. If you’re creative, try selling handmade items on Etsy. Love to crunch numbers? Become a bookkeeper to professionals who prefer to outsource their assistance. Whatever you choose, a side gig is a great opportunity to earn enough income to help you make ends meet while still tending to your other obligations. It’ll help you create structure in your days while you transition back into the workforce.

Search Your Soul

This is a time to envision your future; you are rebuilding your life in a new light. Whatever you do now can serve as a stepping stone toward a new career path. Unsure what direction that would be? Consider what sorts of things energize you, and weigh what your strengths are. You might want to take a career quiz to help you figure out what would fit well with your personality type, and think about what experiences you have that can help formulate a plan of action.

Prepare Paperwork

Once you determine your general direction, it’s vital to update your resume as a first step in your new path. You’re reentering the job market with your new and improved self, so you should refresh your resume to reflect that. You can use an online resume builder to take the guesswork out of this step. A resume builder will assist you with the entire resume-building process, from selecting a template and color scheme to inputting your work experience and skills. You will then need to create an appropriate cover letter. As Glass Door indicates, a resume conveys the facts of your skills, experiences, and abilities, while a cover letter is your chance to show more about your personality. This is your chance to shine, so make sure you put your best foot forward.

Land an Interview

When you’re reframing your life following a recovery experience, certain things can feel unsteady, and job interviews can feel like one of the most daunting challenges. When you’re in recovering, you might be particularly concerned about what to discuss and how to talk about certain details can feel unwieldy. One suggestion is to decide ahead of time whether you will open up about your addiction in a job interview, and if so, what information would you be willing to share. You can talk about things in a manner that helps interviewers see how much you gained from your experience. Federal law prohibits employers from discriminating against you due to your history of addiction while also protecting your privacy. The decision of whether to discuss your past is entirely yours, but don’t get hung up on what used to be. Remember, if we are in Christ, we are new creations, and the old self is put away. You might like to review common interview questions to prepare for talking with employers. By thinking through the questions and responses you can become more comfortable with the process as a whole. With a proper mindset and good preparation, you’ll be on your way to your dream job!

Recovering from an addiction is a challenging path. When you are ready to enter the job market, finding the right fit can be imposing. With some planning and preparation, you can not only find the right fit, but you can also find work that helps you to heal and thrive.

Rufus Carter

rufus@recoveringworks.com
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The Reality Formula At Work In Business

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The Guiding Principles of Reality work wherever they are used. These Universal Truths are the way we see life when we are aligned with Reality. They bring us a sense of peace in our personal and family life, and they help us find right relationship with our partners, in life as well as in the business arena.Today I decided it would be helpful to share with you a business model that illustrates the Guiding Principles In the Workplace .

The business I've chosen as a model for todays purpose are a perfect illustration of how The Guiding Principles work. The Guiding Principles that I talk so much about naturally occur whenever we are in alignment with, versus resistance to, Universal flow. What I call the Guiding Principles is actually simply a list of the Universal Law that are in play during the process of manifestation, whether we are conscious of it or not. I happen to know the ins and outs of the business that I am highlighting today because the founder is my own son, Andrew Guilfoil.

B Andrew’s Skincare, LLC is a small company presently run by Andrew and his life partner, Brett Crandal, who has played an integral role in supporting Andrew in all his endeavors from the day they met. Today, Brett is the company’s CEO. Over the years, he has grown to greatly appreciate the role The Reality Formula®️ plays in Andrew’s life and often applies it to the business decisions he must make. Brett, Andrew, and I have conversed many times about how the Guiding Principles apply to life. Their company is a good example of how a business can be operated with consciousness and in alignment with spiritual principles.

One of the basic understandings touted in The Reality Formula®️, for instance, says that there are no problems, only opportunities for expansion and growth. Focusing on a problem inevitably leads to reinforcing and actually exacerbating the problem being pinpointed. It often misdirects our attention towards assigning blame and figuring out who caused the problem, and why it shouldn’t have happened. Whereas life challenges viewed  as is outlined in the first Guiding Principle allows us to see that life always happens FOR us, even when it is painful. This shift in focus allows us to look for the lessons and hidden gifts in a challenging situation rather than getting sidetracked with blame and negative mud-slinging.

From its inception, B Andrews Skin Care illustrated this first Guiding Principle. Again and again Andrew and Brett have sought and found ways to turn adversity, i.e.”problems,” into opportunities. And like most businesses, they have had their fair share of challenges!

As a matter of fact, the way this skincare company originated, some 20 years before it was called B Andrew’s, was in response to a “problem.” At that time Andrew was a massage therapist that was facing a serious challenge. Simply put he could not find any sort of massage oil on the market that worked with his hyper-sensitive clients, one in particular. This client needed the pain release that massage offered for her chronic muscular dysfunction but suffered mightily from painful skin eruptions due to the oils used during the therapeutic massage process. No matter what product he found on the market to use, her skin protested.

Andrew decided he was being “universally prompted” to find and develop his own allergy-free formula to truly help this client. So he set about researching the essential oils with natural healing qualities that would treat the symptoms his client was experiencing. After much trial and error, he was successful. He came up with the perfect blend of essential oils that not only alleviated her symptoms but actually helped greatly alleviate her muscular pain as well. Thereafter, he spent the next few years studying and experimenting with various blends of oil, creating amazing healing formulas for many of his clients, His oil blends and reputation as a skin care specialist grew.

Later, those very same skincare formulas became products used to raise funds for his school of Ballet, Even then, he was being guided, as the Guiding Principles suggest happens when we align with Source, towards the founding of the company that B Andrew Skincare would become.

In other words B Andrew’s is not a business that Andrew and Brett had to “make happen,” it is a business that came about as a result of their  following their own inner promptings in alignment with their desire to be of service. Joseph Campbell describes it as “following our bliss.”

It was part of the natural unfolding then that the demand for Andrew's skin care products increased to the point that creating a skin care business became the “next right step.” The progression I describe is a great example of how the Universe work through us when we allow the creative process to happen, rather than to try and figure out “something to do to make money.” Instead we learn to let opportunity “find us,” often through the challenges we face, and then we simply follow our promptings.

Instead of resisting, we learn to trust the challenges that come up for us along the way; we learn to see them, not as obstacles that obstruct, or as proof that we can't have what we want, but as creative opportunities. being presented to us, often as guides leading us somewhere better. This more receptive attitude of trusting life's challenges to be for us allowed Andrew to sort of “stumble into” founding a thriving company that offers real service to his customers.

The second Guiding Principle introduces us to the idea that everything in life has a particular “high or low” vibrational “tone.” Even our thoughts are electromagnetic in nature and carry (and transmit) a particular vibrational frequency as determined by their positive (high) or negative (low) emotional tone. The Law of Manifestation says that thoughts turn into things, and the sorts of things thoughts turn into is determined by the high or low vibrational frequency of the original thoughts we think and believe (If you are a student of The Reality Formula®️, you are already familiar with this concept.) In other words, our thoughts transmit a vibrational frequency that in turn, creates (or attracts) a matching vibrational outcome.

We can also apply this same understanding to what we put in and on our bodies. Everything has a particular tone depending upon the vibrational “high or low” frequency of its nature. We might say that the higher frequency a food or product is, the more life it contains. And the opposite is true – the lower or more dense the frequency of a food or product, the less life force it contains. In other words, the more alive, fresh, or pure a food or product is, (i.e. the higher its vibrational frequency) the more healing and nutritional value it will be able to offer. This applies to everything we ingest, whether it's the food we eat, the water we drink, or what we put on our skin (and BTW, the quality of thoughts we think determines our personal sense of aliveness too). To summarize, the more “alive,” a product is, the more life-giving energy it contains, the more life it exudes, the more benefit we gain from its use.

Andrew and Brett know the importance of vibrational frequency and of maintaining it in their products, in their marketing, and in their customer care.They know that what they put out will come back to them. It's spiritual  law.

And they consciously know better than to add heavy preservatives with a low-frequency chemical load to their skin products. They have been adamant and insistent in their refusal to add these chemicals to their products, again, because they understand that the degree of purity a product has will determine its ability to rejuvenate, heal and nourish their customers skin.

Their insistence in maintaining the aliveness of their products created a challenge because for many years the FDA would not allow products on the shelves of stores that did NOT contain the preservatives and chemical additives necessary to guarantee “shelf-life.” This meant That B Andrews was not able to market to a national or international market; they had to instead “handcraft” their products in small quantities until very recently when the laws relaxed around this issue. But this too, they took in stride, choosing to see that staying a small home-crafted business  allowed them to focus on generating better and better quality products for their loyal customers, and being able to stay connected and learn directly from those customers that taught them so much about what they liked and needed. In other words, their small target audience helped them continue to refine their products and customer care. While their size as a company did not grow exponentially, their understanding and educational opportunities for those who loved what they offer DID. And now that the federal laws are making room for products that are 100% organic they are ready for the expansion that is now rapidly upon them … Right on time! This too is the Universe, according to the Guiding Principles, working FOR them.

These days, Brett has taken the lead in B Andrews, allowing Andrew to move on to other creative outlets involving his love of the performing arts and dance. Brett has evolved into the expert that customers turn to for personal advice and individualized skin care. And he has evolved the business as a skin care expert through his enthusiastic sharing in his online blog posts. There he educates customers about the skincare products and gives helpful tips for skin care in general. The blog is his way of being able to stay in communication with their customers so that even as they expand they can still maintain personal connection. Good stuff.

B Andrews has not only provided a livelihood for these partners, but has served as a pathway to personal growth and inner expansion as well. The business partners and employees too, evolve as the company moves forward. This is what it is to have a business that is high frequency and alive; it's not only the business that expands, but everyone involved grows and thrives as well.

That B Andrews LLC is on the rise these days is unquestioned. It is a joy to watch from the sidelines. It is a delight to witness and share with you what it looks like when a business lines up with Guiding Principles that help them create the Reality they visualize.  \I hope you find something in this review that inspires you to learn more about how to apply Universal guiding principles to your own business, whether that business is still just a seed in your thought life, or already on the ground.

Love & Light,
Lynne

BTW, if you want to learn more about B Andrews LLC, you can find out about their products and  learn tips on your own skin care on their website and in their skincare blog.

AND  when I told Brett and Andrew that I was highlighting their business as an example of how the Guiding Principles work in business, they were thrilled, and immediately responded by offering you, my readers,  a special 20% discount on any product order. To take advantage of their generous offer, simply email them at skincarebandrew@gmail.com with your order and mention that I referred you. You don’t even have to order online – they will contact you to confirm and complete your order.

Universal Guiding Principles VS The Victim Perspective

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 1. Principle: There are no coincidences. Everything has a cause and an effect. Regardless of whether what we experience is painful or creates happiness, it is always FOR the expansion of our consciousness and therefore serves us.
 

Victim Perspective: I am a victim at the mercy of an unfair world. Life is chaotic and without rhyme or reason.
     

Question: What might be the purpose of my own current life situation? Is there a thought behind my reaction? What is it?

 

2. Principle: We are energy-in-motion, Source-based, and vibrational beings gnerating an emotional tone of light and dense vibration depending on the nature of our own thoughts and beliefs. The high or low (emotion-based) vibration of the thoughts we think and believe attracts to us people and life encounters that reflect the same emotional tone, re a similar, dense, or light, vibrational frequency.

Victim Perspective: Bad things happen for no reason, other than because the world is a dangerous place. It is not safe to trust.

Question: What emotional tone or vibrational frequency am I currently operating on? Are my thoughts generating a light, positive, pleasant, vibrational frequency, or a heavy, dense, not so pleasant emotional tone? How are my thoughts affecting my frequency right now?

 

3. Principle: The Mind is made up of an opposing pair of opposites: The Victim ego, and The Observer Self. The Observer Self (Higher Mind) is the Eternal Being and Essential Nature of who we are as Divine and limitless beings that goes beyond the physical, beyond anything we can experience with the five senses. This Expansive Self is that part of us that sees and knows us without judgment, guides with compassion, and prompts us though our intuition or “Inner Knowing.” The Observer Self always operates from Love, Wisdom, and Understanding.

Its opposite is the fear-based Victim ego,  often referred to as the ego, or the Lower Self. It is referred to as the lower self because is is designed to operate on the worldly level, and cannot see beyond our physical experience. These two selves are polarized opposites, the “yin-yang” of the mind, (consisting of the Light/ Dark, Conscious/Unconscious, Masculine/Feminine elements, which every manifestation must contain to be made manifest.) These two opposites are like flip sides of the same coin and inseparable, however, because they are polar opposites, their is constant friction and resistance between them. This friction between opposites creates the necessary resistance that makes expansion and increased growth of consciousness possible. But it also means we are in a perpetual state of struggle between these two extreme opposites. Peace increases as we mature in our ability to accept that both are essential, necessary parts of the wholeness of our being.

Victim Perspective: There is good and bad, right and wrong, in the world. I must fight, defeat and get rid of the bad, and experience only what I am taught is the good or the right side of thngs.

Question: What dualities am I presently aware of around me? How am I resisting the dual nature of my own Reality?

 

4. Principle: Energy travels in spirals and circles; and everything in life has a cyclic nature. We spiral forward on the consciousness journey, often moving through particular life themes and old cyclic patterns that serve to awaken and spiritually refine us.

Victim Perspective: I am on a straight and narrow path that must be always going forward, else I am failing or doing it wrong. I must be perfect to progress.

Question: What life themes or old patterns am I cycling through right now?

 

5. Principle: The world is a mirror that accurately reflects the present state of our relationship with ourselves, Source, and those around us.

Victim Perspective: Being treated unfairly. I am a victim of abuse, unfairness, and neglect at the hands of others. My only chance of feeling better is to change or stop them from abusing me.

Question: What are my present relationships and life situations reflecting to me about my thoughts and feelings towards myself?

 

6. Principle: When we believe what we think, we automatically feel and act as if its true, and then we react in ways that prove us right. This is the Reality Formula that defines Reality as we each personally experience it: Thoughts/Beliefs + Emotion + Reactions = Reality. There are no exceptions.

Victim Perspective: It is the world and what others do or don’t do to me that makes me feel bad. It’s their fault that I react the way I do, and they are the ones who make me suffer.

Question: What unhappy thought am I believing, and what do I create in my life by believing it?

 

7. Principle: What we focus on expands, and what we ignore, fades. We can collaborate with Source by choosing a possibility we want to manifest, and then set a conscious intention to ‘attend it’ into Reality.

Victim Perspective: I must force them to see how they are mistreating me, and make them apologize so they will stop hurting me and I can feel better.

Question: What am I “growing” in life? What in my life needs more attention? What needs less?

 

8. Principle: We choose what to believe. We co-create our life by either blindly believing, or consciously choosing, the thoughts we will believe. We question our thoughts and beliefs, and consciously choose to invest energy only in thoughts that create harmony and peace, where drama and chaos-provoking beliefs once reigned.

Victim Perspective: I have no choice but to believe what I think because that is simply the way it is … and I am at the mercy of life.

Question: What does my emotional response tell me about the thoughts I am choosing to believe right now? Am I running on unhappy thoughts, or am I choosing my thoughts consciously?

 

9. Principle: We project our beliefs and unhappy story on to those around us, and then react as if what we project is true, which elicits a response from the world that amply proves to us that what we believed and projected is true.

Victim Perspective: I had to react the way I did because they made me.

Question: What am I judging as unacceptable about the person, or situation I am resisting? How do I do the same things I criticize them for – to myself, if not to them, or others?

 

10. Principle: Through conscious intention, we align daily with Reality and surrender to enjoying a life of peace and spiritual adventure, as vessels or conduits for the Flow of Source through us. We live in Observer Consciousness, in alignment with ourselves, the world around us, and Source.

Victim Perspective:  I am only a physical body, with a brain that helps me survive against the odds of making it in a cruel world where life has no meaning. Only what I can see, touch, and hear are real – everything else is made up to make us feel better about life on Earth.

Question: What ways am I currently practicing daily to align with Reality and peace?

 

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