I have been learning so much about the origins of bully energy from writing my workbook for Teachers and Parents on Bully-Free Consciousness this past summer. I have taken my work with adults to the kids in our life and allowed them to show me what kids do with these concepts!
I find that kids catch on very quickly about the three archetypes, or roles, on the Bully Triangle (the name of the Victim Triangle for kids). Especially the kids we often label as bullies.
The “bully's” among our children have been the ones who are making the biggest transitions! It is so exciting to watch! My hypothesis is that they resonate with the Bully Triangle model because it doesn't blame or shame them. They are just one of the three roles on the Bully Triangle, and the roles move around all the time!
I've thought a lot about what this energy we define as “bully” is and how it is we create bullies. Watch this five minute video that Daniel took on my iphone yesterday of me, and my dog, Syrus, who is being the perfect model of what bully energy looks like when its worked with and redirected, rather than punished or resisted!