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Recovery From Rescuing

photo credit: alisonkanegae Family Rescuers don’t like it when other family members are angry with them. When we relate to others from a primarily rescuer role, we hate for others to think we are mean or unfair because our sense of self worth and self importance comes from having others look to and depend on us. In other words, we need to be needed so

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Questioning Our Limiting Notions About Others

photo credit: ePi.Longo As rescuers. we tend to believe that our dependent loved one(s) really can’t take care of themselves and … well, they often agree with us. They don’t happen to think that they can take care of themselves either! Such a mutually shared belief keeps us, as rescuers hooked into rescuer mode. (After all, “what will happen to them if we don’t take

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Are You Promoting Autonomy or Dependence?

photo credit: photographerpandora How do we find the balance between codependent “rescuing” and “cold detachment”? This is a question we must ask anytime we step into a service oriented relationship with another. It is the question we must ask at every level – from our personal relations right up to the level of national and international affairs. Whenever we face a decision about “helping” others

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Universal Guidance

photo credit: piermario I received “strong encouragement” from a comment posted on my blog recently recommending that I deepen my studies in Alchemy. I replied and asked for study suggestions. I asked the question to my commenter, Mysterium, but also to the ethers. I’ve seen that when I ask a question, response comes – often immediately. (Sometimes we’re too busy protesting the way it comes

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The Victim Triangle

Do you know that every time you blame something or someone outside yourself for your unhappiness that you are seeing yourself as a victim? This way of perceiving the world is what creates all of our mental and emotional misery. We see the world through a victim lens every time we think something outside of us is causing our unhappiness There are three aspects or

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