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Bullying the Bully In The Classroom Does Not Work – So What Does?

Our team has been researching to see what “remedies” are being offered for “bullies in the classroom,” and what we are finding is, “not much.” There are some good guidelines to try and safeguard it from happening, placing the brunt of responsibility on already over-burdened teachers with numbers beyond their capacity in the classroom to keep the bullies at bay … but what about when

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How Are Bullies Made, Really?

I have been learning so much about the origins of bully energy from writing my workbook for Teachers and Parents on Bully-Free Consciousness this past summer. I have taken my work with adults to the kids in our life  and allowed them to show me what kids do with these concepts! I find that kids catch on very quickly about the three archetypes, or roles,

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The Victim Addiction

photo credit: Lomo-Cam Victim consciousness is the number one addiction that underlies all addictions … which may at least partially explain why it is so hard for some of us to take space from those who abuse us. We are commonly addicted to being on the victim triangle with one another; we are addicted to rescuing (trying to control their outcomes), and persecuting others (when

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Persecuting ourselves on the victim triangle

Hopefully we are growing in awareness of how we play out the victim triangle in our relationship with others. But are we as aware of how we play out the victim triangle internally with ourselves? As I questioned who I become when I believe the thought that I should be different, I saw how I move through all three roles on the victim triangle in

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Manipulating others to fit our idea of perfection

photo credit: Perfecto Insecto But what literally brought me to my knees that evening in the garden that I have been speaking to you about in the last several posts was the realization of how it is I treat others when I am engaged in the self-destructive cycle of trying to make me different, i.e. “right for God!” I saw how I speak and treat

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