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Universal Guiding Principles VS The Victim Perspective

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 1. Principle: There are no coincidences. Everything has a cause and an effect. Regardless of whether what we experience is painful or creates happiness, it is always FOR the expansion of our consciousness and therefore serves us.
 

Victim Perspective: I am a victim at the mercy of an unfair world. Life is chaotic and without rhyme or reason.
     

Question: What might be the purpose of my own current life situation? Is there a thought behind my reaction? What is it?

 

2. Principle: We are energy-in-motion, Source-based, and vibrational beings gnerating an emotional tone of light and dense vibration depending on the nature of our own thoughts and beliefs. The high or low (emotion-based) vibration of the thoughts we think and believe attracts to us people and life encounters that reflect the same emotional tone, re a similar, dense, or light, vibrational frequency.

Victim Perspective: Bad things happen for no reason, other than because the world is a dangerous place. It is not safe to trust.

Question: What emotional tone or vibrational frequency am I currently operating on? Are my thoughts generating a light, positive, pleasant, vibrational frequency, or a heavy, dense, not so pleasant emotional tone? How are my thoughts affecting my frequency right now?

 

3. Principle: The Mind is made up of an opposing pair of opposites: The Victim ego, and The Observer Self. The Observer Self (Higher Mind) is the Eternal Being and Essential Nature of who we are as Divine and limitless beings that goes beyond the physical, beyond anything we can experience with the five senses. This Expansive Self is that part of us that sees and knows us without judgment, guides with compassion, and prompts us though our intuition or “Inner Knowing.” The Observer Self always operates from Love, Wisdom, and Understanding.

Its opposite is the fear-based Victim ego,  often referred to as the ego, or the Lower Self. It is referred to as the lower self because is is designed to operate on the worldly level, and cannot see beyond our physical experience. These two selves are polarized opposites, the “yin-yang” of the mind, (consisting of the Light/ Dark, Conscious/Unconscious, Masculine/Feminine elements, which every manifestation must contain to be made manifest.) These two opposites are like flip sides of the same coin and inseparable, however, because they are polar opposites, their is constant friction and resistance between them. This friction between opposites creates the necessary resistance that makes expansion and increased growth of consciousness possible. But it also means we are in a perpetual state of struggle between these two extreme opposites. Peace increases as we mature in our ability to accept that both are essential, necessary parts of the wholeness of our being.

Victim Perspective: There is good and bad, right and wrong, in the world. I must fight, defeat and get rid of the bad, and experience only what I am taught is the good or the right side of thngs.

Question: What dualities am I presently aware of around me? How am I resisting the dual nature of my own Reality?

 

4. Principle: Energy travels in spirals and circles; and everything in life has a cyclic nature. We spiral forward on the consciousness journey, often moving through particular life themes and old cyclic patterns that serve to awaken and spiritually refine us.

Victim Perspective: I am on a straight and narrow path that must be always going forward, else I am failing or doing it wrong. I must be perfect to progress.

Question: What life themes or old patterns am I cycling through right now?

 

5. Principle: The world is a mirror that accurately reflects the present state of our relationship with ourselves, Source, and those around us.

Victim Perspective: Being treated unfairly. I am a victim of abuse, unfairness, and neglect at the hands of others. My only chance of feeling better is to change or stop them from abusing me.

Question: What are my present relationships and life situations reflecting to me about my thoughts and feelings towards myself?

 

6. Principle: When we believe what we think, we automatically feel and act as if its true, and then we react in ways that prove us right. This is the Reality Formula that defines Reality as we each personally experience it: Thoughts/Beliefs + Emotion + Reactions = Reality. There are no exceptions.

Victim Perspective: It is the world and what others do or don’t do to me that makes me feel bad. It’s their fault that I react the way I do, and they are the ones who make me suffer.

Question: What unhappy thought am I believing, and what do I create in my life by believing it?

 

7. Principle: What we focus on expands, and what we ignore, fades. We can collaborate with Source by choosing a possibility we want to manifest, and then set a conscious intention to ‘attend it’ into Reality.

Victim Perspective: I must force them to see how they are mistreating me, and make them apologize so they will stop hurting me and I can feel better.

Question: What am I “growing” in life? What in my life needs more attention? What needs less?

 

8. Principle: We choose what to believe. We co-create our life by either blindly believing, or consciously choosing, the thoughts we will believe. We question our thoughts and beliefs, and consciously choose to invest energy only in thoughts that create harmony and peace, where drama and chaos-provoking beliefs once reigned.

Victim Perspective: I have no choice but to believe what I think because that is simply the way it is … and I am at the mercy of life.

Question: What does my emotional response tell me about the thoughts I am choosing to believe right now? Am I running on unhappy thoughts, or am I choosing my thoughts consciously?

 

9. Principle: We project our beliefs and unhappy story on to those around us, and then react as if what we project is true, which elicits a response from the world that amply proves to us that what we believed and projected is true.

Victim Perspective: I had to react the way I did because they made me.

Question: What am I judging as unacceptable about the person, or situation I am resisting? How do I do the same things I criticize them for – to myself, if not to them, or others?

 

10. Principle: Through conscious intention, we align daily with Reality and surrender to enjoying a life of peace and spiritual adventure, as vessels or conduits for the Flow of Source through us. We live in Observer Consciousness, in alignment with ourselves, the world around us, and Source.

Victim Perspective:  I am only a physical body, with a brain that helps me survive against the odds of making it in a cruel world where life has no meaning. Only what I can see, touch, and hear are real – everything else is made up to make us feel better about life on Earth.

Question: What ways am I currently practicing daily to align with Reality and peace?

 

Giving It All Up For The Joy Of Inner Peace

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I have been in the throes of loss. Resistance to loss guarantees suffering. And I have suffered.

But Suffering can also serve to Awaken us to choose freedom from suffering. About this I want to speak.

As part of my Awakening, I have been asked to detach. I know this because I have experienced much loss. Through the Guiding Principles I am encouraged, however, to remember that all things, including the coming and goings in my life, are purposeful, on time, and in alignment with my highest and best good. SO that tells me that the losses I have experienced are in fact, a necessary part of my spiritual journey to maturity.

Many times I have felt remorseful, and wrong about these losses. I've asked myself, “What did I do wrong that I should lose so much? What does this mean about me? Am I being punished for careless, selfish, misled choices made? Have I ruined my life forever? Is my life ending?” These questions and others like them have been ones I have, in great consternation, pondered and abused myself with over and again during the last year and more.

Over and again, I have met these punishing thoughts with questions prompted by the Guiding Principles, that remind me that even these losses are FOR me – but HOW? I demanded to know. And there have been layers of break-through that have brought deeper understanding and an acceptance of the necessity of these losses. What remains today is a tremendous amount of awe and reverence for the perfection of the Universal Plan that is moving me steadily along the path of  my salvation.

For I see that I have been in the throes of what the Buddhists call, a process of  “renunciation.”  And it is no coincidence that the revelations about the  necessity of my losses have also prompted me to explore more deeply the teachings of Buddha. And so found myself drawn to attend recently the dharma talk of a Buddhist monk, Gen Kelsang Chokyan, who reminded me of the true meaning of the term “renunciation.”  (For the Universe always works to bring us the reminders and inspiration that will best support our spiritual journey now.)

Renunciation, the monk reminded us, is the pushing away of any thought that produces unhappiness. It is a mental state that allows us to “let go” of our “attachment” to things (people, places, conditions, etc) that we define as the cause of either our happiness or our unhappiness.

I realize that the things I have attributed to as being the cause for my emotional well-being (my Life-mate,  my Home, Financial Security, my Work, Spirituality, Dance, Health,etc)  are not the cause of my emotional well-being at all. NOTHING – NOBODY can make me happy – or unhappy EVER. Only me. I am the one who chooses happy thoughts or unhappy ones in response to what and who is in my life.

But my assigning to them the responsibility for causing my emotional state certainly DOES create suffering. Because that belief that something outside my own mind controls my feelings is a delusion; it is a lie and therefore cannot work.

Making the external world responsible for my happiness can only hold me prisoner to it. After years of effort to try and make external things bring me happiness, I have proven over and again that it will not work. Because it CAN NOT.

And that is a really GOOD thing! Because think about the slave we must become to that which we believe holds the key to our happiness!

For me it has required loss of many of the external things in my life to which I had attached and held responsible for my ok-ness before I could finally GET it!  It has taken all of these losses for me to finally appreciate the need for letting go. For how was I going to find the peace and inner happiness I seek MOST as long as I believed these things were the source of it?

As soon as I have the thought that a certain person, or circumstance, event, or thing, makes me happy, the suffering begins. At that moment, happiness is gone! And in its stead remains only the fear of losing that which I have attached to for my happiness. Because now the mind grows preoccupied with trying to figure out how to hold onto this thing I think will save me from unhappiness. My thoughts become dominated with the fear of what will happen if I lose it, and plots of how to keep it.

In the same way, the opposite is true; as soon as I think something makes me unhappy, I suffer. For now, I see myself at the mercy of an unhappiness that cannot be alleviated until or unless I remove, control or change this thing that causes my woe. I am enslaved by the things I attach to as that which is required for my happiness.

In such moments I wrap my present moment around an impossibility – and must therefore suffer, when I could be enjoying what the world is offering me right now, instead. Inner peace then requires an attitude of detachment.

Detachment is, very simply, the complete and total renunciation of unhappy thoughts, regardless of whether things, conditions, or people, are what we think they “should” be or not. Detachment comes from the realization that happiness occurs when we can accept this moment for what it offers, without needing to hold onto it, resist, or change it. For I cannot hold onto or change anything  – I can only respond to it and appreciate the opportunity it brings.

My personal walk has been to experience the loss of many of the things to which I have attached my happiness; I needed to have them taken from me to be able to see that I could be happy without them. I see the tremendous gift I have been given through these losses for it is only through them that I am finally able to make peace with the Reality of how much I have, rather than fixated on how much I have lost.

It is through appreciating the richness of this moment, including the losses incurred along the Way to NOW that allows us to see that those things we attach to and suffer over DO NOT determine our inner state of well being. Happiness is not dependent on what we have or who comes or goes in our life. Happiness is a choice we make to detach from the belief that external things have any power whatsoever to deliver or take away our peace of mind. That choice leaves us free to be here enjoying the NOW of Life, where every need is met.

Appreciation for the little things we have brings gifts of abundance to our door, and allows us to dance in celebration and awe at just how loved we truly are. For truly, are we not being led, step by step along the path of Liberation and Ultimate Freedom? I believe so with all of my heart.

May you too experience such joy. Blessings,

 

 

Transforming Struggle to Opportunities For Awakening

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(*When I sat down to blog this morning, I had something totally different in mind to write, but this post on realizing our life challenges as opportunity for Awakening is what came through and insisted on being written  … I do not know how much YOU get from what is written through this hand, but I sit at the feet of the Source of my Supply.)

Transforming Struggle to Opportunities For Awakening :

I often wonder, in my helpless baby moments when I am on the victim triangle, why my life is so full of challenges. I moan and groan about it as I was doing recently when my Higher Wisdom piped up and provided me with a bit more insight into why life is marked with difficult moments. I was shown that we ALL must go through necessary challenges at each phase of life. They are the life hurdles that are designed to strengthen and grow us.

I saw that we don't get to “arrive” somewhere and stay. Growth means we must go on to the next level of challenges; it means that there is always a reason for the particular challenges we face. Our challenges are specific to us, designed to prepare us for the life lessons yet to come. Rather than being thrown at us to trip us up, these difficult passages are actually FOR us!

Our life challenges do not come to us because we are failures, or because we did something wrong that we are being punished for, or because we are unloved, or because we have been rejected by a Universe who deems us unworthy. NEVER does the Universe act out of such motives! We are beloved and well “parented” by a Universal Intelligence that seeks to foster our ultimate highest and best good through the discipline gained from the very life challenges we so resist! Perhaps we have forgotten that we signed up for Earth Boot Camp when we said “Yes” to this earth tour of duty. Our difficulties are rites of passage, by design.

Life challenges are built into life; this is how we know they are an essential part of life. No one gets off easy. Everyone has their own load of life-expanding challenges that must be lived through, whether we grow from them or not. How we deal with these life challenges is our personal choice.

Just by virtue of having a physical body that ages and eventually fails to function, it guarantees that we will face challenges. Every age has its own set of challenges built in. If challenges are built into our life existence from birth then how can we deny the predestined need for challenge as a part of the path that every human must walk? How can that which is designed to guide us as disciples be about punishment for some arbitrary doing or lack thereof?

No! Our life challenges are what shape and shift our seeing to align us better with that which we came here to achieve and become. They are part of our on-the-ground training.

By studying carefully the lessons offered to us through the life challenges we have already faced and overcome, we can often find the ways they have strengthened us and even set us up in preparation for the things we achieve. Life challenges refine us through the questions they require answers to, and through the storms, they bring us face to face with life. Hardship and challenges often serve as grist for the mill towards becoming our best and most mature selves. They coax us towards grace, gratitude, and acceptance.

Or challenges can drive us to collapse into puddles of ineffective misery, all depending upon how we meet them. And that is our choice. We can choose to either meet challenges and hardship with resilience and thus overcome, OR we can choose to meet them with resistance and collapse.

The Universe is NOT mean; it IS relentless. It has its job to do, which is to induce growth, to move us from the state of consciousness that has us lost in immaturity. We are like babies ranting and raving about how unfair life is and how it should be easier. We feel entitled and constantly demand more. Only through life challenges are we brought into the gratitude that goes with FINAL resolution. Only on the other side of the challenge, do we find ourselves thankful for what we have, even if it is NOT what we thought it “should” be. This is how we become “grown-ups” (Becoming a grown-up is the real purpose of our spiritual journey.) Coming out the other side with grace and acceptance of what is is the stuff of maturity. As mature souls, our battle-scars from the life “problems” we have encountered tell a story of wisdom gained from life lessons well-learned and now ready to share with others who follow.

At every stage of life, we are met with new and different challenges; often these are age-specific. For instance, every child faces the challenge of learning to walk at one stage of life, and then at a later stage they take on the challenge of learning how to ride a bicycle – later driving a car becomes their age-specific challenge. As I said, we are all guaranteed such age-related challenges, so that even if we somehow escape bigger life challenges, we will have those that go naturally with being in a physical body. These age-related challenges, once met and surpassed, become part of the foundation needed as a firm footing for the next challenge – all aimed to evolve us into full-fledged grown-ups.

But most of us are also given a fair supply of more personal, individually tailored challenges. These personally “crafted” (by Universal Mind and our own Inner Nature) challenges are not accidental happenings; they are not a mistake. Spiritual Law reminds us that there are no mistakes, that even those seemingly aberrant happenings are actually “plotted” (by Higher Mind) into the journey we are here to take, as preparatory lessons, for where it is we have come to go.

For example, I think of my close friend who was born with unformed, non-functional thumbs. The challenges he has faced at every juncture have been difficult, but necessary on his way to becoming the amazing artist and brilliant man that he is. His hands have played an essential role in almost everything he excels in today. His hands have been his teacher, his task-master, as well as the bane of his existence. They have been an extreme source of embarrassment and visible proof to him of a belief he has carried since early childhood about himself as being imperfect, and therefore less valuable than others. The hurdles his hands have required him to overcome have been life lessons that have brought him into his spiritual nature. They have taught him humility and acceptance towards the infirmities of others. Not only that but his hands have motivated him to strive to achieve things considered beyond the scope of possibility not just for himself, but for anybody. He, through the process of overcoming the inherent challenges his hands have demanded, can perform manual tasks with ease and finesse that even “normal” hands cannot do. His life challenge has turned him into an absolute miracle of expression.

Each of us has our own particular “schedule” of challenges we are given, again not because of our lack of luck or worth, but because we are loved and therefore provided with the life lessons that will bring us closer to the Source of our being. These challenges that we consider “unfair” and unfortunate, are the very life lessons we need to stretch and expand us to acquire the abilities and strengths required to achieve the purpose for which we came.

Part of our personal work is to learn to see our life challenges as that which we face for a reason; they are designed to help us realize them as stepping stones to a Higher Self Expression. The Guiding Principles teach us how to befriend our life struggles and meet our life challenges with grace, dignity, and a peaceful understanding of the necessity for the challenging life we may be given. They teach us to turn them into instruction for a better Way of life.

Are you ready to embrace your life challenges as friend and teacher?

*If you do indeed find value through such “Sharings” then join with Jaquetta and Me on Reality Formula Live where we explore the Work that has been handed me over the years. We need your support in building our online community.

(After I wrote this, I was moved to reach for the Bible and open it randomly.  I opened to Hebrews 12:5:

“My son (daughter), do not make light of the Lord's discipline, and do not lose heart when he rebukes you, because the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and he chastens everyone he accepts as his son (daughter).” )

 

 

Listening to Ourselves As Step Towards Loving Better …

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Once we have learned to listen to ourselves well enough that we don’t need to scream at our loved ones in daily life, then we get to have the relationship of our dreams. Until then we can only snipe at, attack and blame one another for the misery we suffer from the self abuse and neglect we experience inside.

Notice a kitten who, when treated roughly, learns to bite and scratch, but when handled with consistent and firm gentleness, knows how to touch without claws. 

In the same way, when we learn to listen to the needs of that immature child within ourselves, the childish one who demands our attention or dies, we no longer need an external abusive someone in our life who has the “job”of showing us how we treat ourselves  by mirroring it to us through our external exchange.

When we “attend” to ourselves by questioning that little ones confused perspective, we attract others to us who will mirror to us how we are befriending our inner and outer world.

And Then we become capable of having the loving relationship of our dreams.

How Do We Make Peace With Dementia or Alzheimers?

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I so empathize wth those who struggle with how to make peace with watching our loved ones struggle with Dementia or Alzheimers. There is no easy answer … although the route to peace is simple in terms of how to get there, it still requires a complete shift in the way we see our life situations to accomplish. There are some simple (not easy) consciousness tools we can use that provide us with a direction to head when we seek relief.

But only with this reminder: it is a practice. Acceptance of Reality requires that we be gentle with ourselves and don’t expect perfection or miracles. We must first deal with the part of our mind that believes it “should not be happening.” But it is happening! How do we make peace with THAT Reality, is the question. Of course we will struggle as we attempt to consciously intervene on painful patterns of thought in us that are as old as we are!

The Guiding Principles of Reality®️ first of all remind us that there are NO coincidences… no mistakes … We are vibrational beings that experience what we do on our life journey for a reason – even if we can’t figure out what that reason is. Reality says it is impossible to experience anything that is not a vibrational match for our own inner design and path. We believe thoughts that send out vibrations that call into our lives a fleshed out version of that belief. This is how the world mirrors to us what it is we believe for the purpose of observing our thoughts.

How does this apply to a situation of dementia or Alzheimer’s, we may ask … For me, these principles help me to understand that as much as I may think “they should not be experiencing this,” they still are. And so it must be a vibrational match for something their soul needs to experience. It MUST be that because they ARE experiencing that … and if I don't need to make that “bad” or “wrong” or “sad” etc, I can even align to support them in seeing that possibility as well! 

Our Soul Self has attracted to us the experiences and life challenges we encounter FOR our evolving nature. NO better way to learn something than through life experienee. Our illnesses, our conditions, and traumas we go through ALL offer learning value – if we are awake enough to SEE it even if how that can be is not obvious to us.

Remember we are eternal beings. We know this because we are energy in motion – and energy never dies … it simply changes form.

With that said, I can think of several possible ways to see dementia rather than only though the “its-a-problem” viewpoint. For instance, what if dementia is the only way your loved one can let go of some beliefs that needs to be released for purposes of forgiveness or to move forward to an “empty slate?”

What if it's the only way they can allow themselves to quieten the mind enough to be in present time? What if they are in a process of learning to  turn their focus inward in preparation for a coming life transition? What if their soul is learning to focus on inner time and space rather than being so caught up in outer concerns?

What would be different if you were to see that person's illness as an initiation of sorts designed to help them to let go of worries they have not been able to release any other way. What if they are being given an opportunity to say things out loud or express emotions that they have held within to their own detriment and that don't necessarily make sense to anyone else?

Perhaps they forget who they are or where they have been or who you are … and what if when those things happen, you were able to simply tell them that they are perhaps letting go of an old identity by forgetting …  on their way into becoming a higher better expression of themselves? OR what if you simply bring their attention back to the present moment when they get agitated? Again, simply thinking about ways to support their “practice” of being in the here and now. 

And what if part of your own awakening is in witnessing that loved one's state of mental confusion? What are you learning from observing your process around their process? Perhaps they are in your life as your teacher right now. Your choice, and theirs, is to make peace with the Reality of our situation and look for the boons, the gifts and life learnings found there – or we can choose to collapse into sorrow and depression because Reality is what it is. 

My mother began to have lapses in remembering before she died – she would get confused on who I was, for instance, “are you my daughter or am I yours?” she wondered out loud once. And I laughed and said, “Well I call YOU “mom” if that helps … “ and then we both got the giggles. 

She maintained her sense of humor about losing her memory to the last – what a model of acceptance and grace she was for me! 

May your loved one serve your Awakening in similar ways! 

Remember, it’s a PRACTICE – not a place you arrive.

Blessings, Lynne  

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