When we have no frame of reference for understanding hardship we feel like a victim to it. We see painful events as being “bad times” that we must struggle through, feeling isolated and at the mercy of outside forces. We do not understand that the painful event we experience was needed to penetrate and begin to bring down the tower of false beliefs that we have erected between us and Universal Source. Instead we tend to look for someone or some thing outside us to blame for our problems. When we resist, try to eliminate or control the outcomes of our difficulty, we strengthen our false beliefs.
But once we understand how the Universe uses painful situations to expand us we view these same situations that we earlier felt victimized by as opportunities for closer connection with Source. We come to understand that the function of life's challenging times is to refine us, by helping us see what false beliefs stand between us and Source. Thus we are better able to harvest the gifts of insight that come through challenging times. We come not only to expect life challenges but to turn eagerly to them so that we can glean from them the wisdom and clarity they bring.
When we participate in this life process there is no thought that this or that shouldn't be happening. There is only the knowing that what is happening isalways and only for us.