The Universal rule is this: We each operate out of our own belief system and everything we see is colored by those beliefs.
Our beliefs are like a lens through which we view the world. We look out at the world through these ideas that we've never questioned with no idea about how deeply they are affecting our vision. I didn't mean to imply that we make others act a particular way with our thoughts …. or vice-versa – that they make us act or say things. I'm saying that because we see the world through our own story we act accordingly – we will behave as if our way of seeing it is true. In other words, we unconsciously project our story out and then respond as if it's true which ends up getting us the evidence we need to verify our own story.
I've got more to say about this tomorrow….