“How do we become attracted to someone other than to people who mirror the types of behavior we don't like?”
It is through the process of transforming our minds that we attract and are attracted to higher frequency people and life situations. As we raise our internal frequency through the process of examining and intervening on our old, limiting beliefs … we vibrate on a higher note which will be immediately reflected to us through our day to day encounters.
This is not something we have to DO … but the results of a shift in our thoughts. As we intentionally focus our inner attention on the vibrational frequency that we want to see more of in our lives, we produce that resonance … and therefore that life experience.