“Recovery from Rescuing” by Jacqueline Castine
It's the motivation behind our acts of caring that determines whether we're really helping others or actually engaging in a more destructive type of care-giving known as “rescuing”.
Rescuing comes when we put ourselves in a one-up position and look down on others, seeing them as inadequate and/or incapable.
Castine's book, “Recovery From Rescuing”, is a great resource for understanding what rescuing is and ways to overcome this destructive pattern of interacting with others.