Are you in a painful relationship and wondering whether you should go or stay?
I used to think I knew whether a couple should stay together or separate based on the degree of pain or abuse involved. I have since come to realize how totally presumptuous such an idea is!
Today I know that there is no right or wrong answer regarding whether to stay or leave a relationship – regardless of the amount of suffering involved. There is only the reality of what is right now.
What is the best indicator that you should stay in your present relationship? That you're still there!
If you haven't left then it's not time to go. It really is that simple. You can know that you need to be there simply because you ARE there.
How can I say this, you ask?
Because all relationships (and perhaps especially abusive ones) serve to enlighten us. They do this by being a mirror for us that reflects our own relationship with ourself.
Abusive relationships mirror self abuse – always. What we experience in relationship with another will be our own level of relating to ourselves.
You can count on it.