Our projection on others are meant to serve us. Our judgments about them can bring us back to a judgment against ourselves and the story that goes with it … all we need do is to follow it in. Our friends are loving us through their willingness to carry our negative projections (whether they know it or not). They are helping us increase self awareness and self forgiveness.
Finding self forgiveness is the sacred function of judging others … we can use our negative assessments to spot in ourselves what we’re criticizing in them so that we can investigate and liberate our minds. Every single encounter serves us in this way if we will open to the magic of using the world around us towards setting ourselves free.