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The Benefits of Victim Consciousness

photo credit: phoenix wolf-ray YES! There are payoffs to living in victim consciousness. We would not hold onto a victim way of seeing the world if there were not perceived benefits in it for us. Until we make those conscious there will most likely be no real motivation to change. For instance, living in victim alleviates the need for personal responsibility. As long as we

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We Get To Choose Our Thoughts, Feelings, and Responses to Abuse …

photo credit: Otto Yamamoto To move out of victim consciousness means to understand that no matter what an abuser does to us, we ALWAYS GET TO CHOOSE how we think, and feel about it. What we do with what happens to us is something no one can take from us. We can choose how to see the painful, abusive things we experience and we get

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Seeking Thoughts That Generate Peace Instead of Pain

photo credit: tapperboy I believe that to move out of victim consciousness, we must replace our old way of looking at the world with a set of guiding principles that provides a more healing framework for understanding the terrible things we go through. Since I see the world as a mirror, I trust that those people who act destructively towards others will reap the full

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Guilt Doesn’t Necessarily Mean We Are Guilty

photo credit: kelsey_lovefusionphoto I’ve found that feeling guilt does not necessarily mean we are guilty! Especially when it’s the kind of guilt that comes from rescuing others. When we are in the habit of assuming responsibility for others, we feel guilty anytime we are not taking care of them. But doing for those who can do for themselves is not always helpful. Feeling guilt at

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Victim Consciousness & Its Opposite

photo credit: Robbert van der Steeg I have lived on all sides of addiction (alcohol & drugs) and so have much personal experience with life on the victim triangle or what we call victim consciousness. I’ve found that moving out of victim consciousness requires that we move into its opposite, observer consciousness. A primary requirement for accessing observer consciousness is the knowledge that our thoughts

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