Happy Kids


The Real­ity For­mula for Kids©

All chil­dren (grown-ups too!) want to feel loved and accepted. Val­i­da­tion is a basic emo­tional need. Every child’s job is to fig­ure out how they need to be/act in order to get their need for atten­tion met.

Some chil­dren get atten­tion by being helpers. They become ‘Bossy Helpers.’ Some chil­dren get atten­tion by pick­ing on (or at) oth­ers (atten­tion is atten­tion — chil­dren set­tle for neg­a­tive atten­tion when pos­i­tive atten­tion is not forth­com­ing!). They become ‘Blam­ing Bul­lies.’ Some chil­dren get atten­tion by being sick, weak, or frag­ile. They become ‘Help­less Babies.’

None of these chil­dren are bad. Actu­ally, they are very cre­ative! They have sim­ply fig­ured out what they need to do to get the atten­tion they need to sur­vive! It is amaz­ing to watch what hap­pens when a child real­izes how their own painful think­ing and resul­tant neg­a­tive reac­tion is what is keep­ing them miserable!

For more infor­ma­tion on The Real­ity For­mula for Kids© Pro­gram, and to invite Lynne For­rest and Danielle Alvarez into your school, please con­tact us at danielle@lynneforrest.com

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Tes­ti­mo­nial Let­ter from The Mon­a­han Fam­ily“The Real­ity For­mula for Kids pro­gram has helped our whole fam­ily in so many ways.”


Con­scious Kids Newslet­ter ‘Real­ity News’

This newslet­ter was cre­ated by 10 year-old, Sawyer Jones, a Con­scious Kid in train­ing. Sawyer was inspired to start this project after a recent behav­ioral inci­dent that allowed him to reflect on his choices, actions, and the con­se­quences that fol­low… a teach­ing moment for us all, that pre­sented us the oppor­tu­nity to reflect on the neg­a­tive atten­tion he receives when he’s on the Unhappy Kid Tri­an­gle©, and the pos­i­tive atten­tion when he’s con­sciously decid­ing to be a Happy Kid off of the Unhappy Kid Tri­an­gle©. We will be post­ing Sawyer’s monthly newslet­ters here for your read­ing enjoy­ment and enlight­en­ment of a per­spec­tive of a kid:

Decem­ber 2012

Jan­u­ary 2013

Feb­ru­ary 2013

March 2013


Seven Steps to a Happy Kid™

  1. Observe what you’re think­ing. Notice that it is your thoughts that make you feel and act happy, or unhappy.
  2. Accept real­ity. Real­ity is “just the way it is.” Even though we can’t con­trol real­ity, we can choose how we think about it.
  3. Choose to befriend real­ity and be happy, or fight it, and become an Unhappy Kid.
  4. Choose hap­pier thoughts to replace your unhappy thoughts. Remem­ber unhappy thoughts often lead to neg­a­tive consequences.
  5. Be kind to oth­ers. Remem­ber when we mis­treat oth­ers, we feel bad, and they do too.
  6. Own your part. When you learn from your mis­takes you are a Happy Kid.
  7. Be respect­ful. Rec­og­nize the dif­fer­ence between what’s your busi­ness and what is not.

Down­load your free copy of the Seven Steps to a Happy Kid™ - use at home or in the class­room for a more peace­ful and har­mo­nious way of relat­ing with oth­ers, and yourself.


Fre­quently Asked Questions

We are so grate­ful to all of the par­ents, pro­fes­sion­als and edu­ca­tors for their won­der­ful ques­tions about our model. We’ve com­piled a list of ques­tions and answers for you to uti­lize in dis­cov­er­ing answers to your own ques­tions about The Real­ity For­mula for Kids. If you would like to add a ques­tion or two please do not hes­i­tate to email us.

The Real­ity For­mula for Kids ‘Q & A’ click now…


Con­scious Kids Camp


Real­ity For­mula for Kids™ Coach­ing Ses­sions with Danielle Alvarez

As the Pri­mary Edu­ca­tor for The Real­ity For­mula™, Danielle offers fam­i­lies who are strug­gling with com­mu­ni­ca­tion issues and chal­leng­ing sit­u­a­tions the oppor­tu­nity to iden­tify how they are play­ing out their dys­func­tional fam­ily dynam­ics on the Unhappy Kid Tri­an­gle™, and to learn more effec­tive tools for suc­cess­fully mov­ing off. See More…


Blog entries by Lynne that may inter­est you as a par­ent or educator:

How are Bully’s Made Really?

Bul­ly­ing the Bully In The Class­room Doesn’t Work — What Does?

Deal­ing With Crit­i­cism In the Family

To see a short demon­sta­tion of Lynne exhibit­ing what bully energy looks like when redi­rected and worked with rather than pun­ished, and resisted, watch this 5 minute video of Lynne and her dog, Syrus, who per­fectly mod­els the bully energy.

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