The Real­ity For­mula for Kids™ — An Answer to Our Nations Bul­ly­ing Phenomenon

All chil­dren (grown-ups too!) want to feel loved and accepted. Val­i­da­tion is a basic emo­tional need. Every child’s job is to fig­ure out

how they need to be/act in order to get their need for atten­tion met.

Some chil­dren get atten­tion by being helpers. They become Hero Helpers. Some chil­dren get atten­tion by pick­ing on (or at) oth­ers (atten­tion is atten­tion — chil­dren set­tle for neg­a­tive atten­tion when pos­i­tive atten­tion is not forth­com­ing!). They become Bullies. Some chil­dren get atten­tion by being sick, weak, or frag­ile. They become Help­less Babies.

None of these chil­dren are bad. Actu­ally, they are very cre­ative! They have sim­ply fig­ured out what they need to do to get the atten­tion they need to survive! It is amaz­ing to watch what hap­pens when a child real­izes how their own painful think­ing and resul­tant neg­a­tive reac­tion is what is keep­ing them miserable!

For more infor­ma­tion on The Real­ity For­mula for Kids™ Program, and to invite Lynne For­rest and her team into your school, please con­tact Danielle Alvarez, danielle@lynneforrest.com

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We teach kids that the way off the Bully Tri­an­gle™ and out of bully con­scious­ness is to become a Con­scious Kid.

As Con­scious Kids: 

We take respon­si­bil­ity for ourselves.

We stop blaming.

We own our part of every situation.

We focus on get­ting off of the Bully Tri­an­gle™, instead of try­ing to prove oth­ers wrong.

We stop look­ing out­side our­selves for the source of our unhappiness.

We look to our own unhappy thoughts as being the main cause of our unhappy feel­ings, and not what other peo­ple do, or say.

We learn to ques­tion our own unhappy thoughts to feel bet­ter, rather than to try and change others.

We admit when we are wrong and look for ways to cor­rect our mistakes.

We accept and learn from the con­se­quences of the choices we make.

We learn to tell the dif­fer­ence between what IS our busi­ness, and what IS NOT.

We learn how to think before we react.

We are help­ful in our responses to oth­ers, rather than hurtful.

We become Con­scious Kids who are both a Shar­ing Friend and a Self-Responsible Guide for oth­ers. (Roles on the Con­scious Kids Triangle™)

Blog entries by Lynne that may inter­est you as a par­ent or educator:

The 10 Guid­ing Prin­ci­ples for Kids

How are Bully’s Made Really?

To see a short demon­sta­tion of Lynne exhibit­ing what bully energy looks like when redi­rected and worked with rather than pun­ished, and resisted, watch this 5 minute video of Lynne and her dog, Syrus, who per­fectly mod­els the bully energy.

Bul­ly­ing the Bully In The Class­room Doesn’t Work — What Does?

Deal­ing With Crit­i­cism In the Family