The Reality Formula for Kids©
All children (grown-ups too!) want to feel loved and accepted. Validation is a basic emotional need. Every child’s job is to figure out how they need to be/act in order to get their need for attention met.
Some children get attention by being helpers. They become ‘Bossy Helpers.’ Some children get attention by picking on (or at) others (attention is attention – children settle for negative attention when positive attention is not forthcoming!). They become ‘Blaming Bullies.’ Some children get attention by being sick, weak, or fragile. They become ‘Helpless Babies.’
None of these children are bad. Actually, they are very creative! They have simply figured out what they need to do to get the attention they need to survive! It is amazing to watch what happens when a child realizes how their own painful thinking and resultant negative reaction is what is keeping them miserable!
For more information on The Reality Formula for Kids© Program, and to invite Lynne Forrest and Danielle Alvarez into your school, please contact us at firstname.lastname@example.org
Testimonial Letter from The Monahan Family – “The Reality Formula for Kids program has helped our whole family in so many ways.”
Conscious Kids Newsletter ‘Reality News’
This newsletter was created by 10 year-old, Sawyer Jones, a Conscious Kid in training. Sawyer was inspired to start this project after a recent behavioral incident that allowed him to reflect on his choices, actions, and the consequences that follow… a teaching moment for us all, that presented us the opportunity to reflect on the negative attention he receives when he’s on the Unhappy Kid Triangle©, and the positive attention when he’s consciously deciding to be a Happy Kid off of the Unhappy Kid Triangle©. We will be posting Sawyer’s monthly newsletters here for your reading enjoyment and enlightenment of a perspective of a kid:
Seven Steps to a Happy Kid™
- Observe what you’re thinking. Notice that it is your thoughts that make you feel and act happy, or unhappy.
- Accept reality. Reality is “just the way it is.” Even though we can’t control reality, we can choose how we think about it.
- Choose to befriend reality and be happy, or fight it, and become an Unhappy Kid.
- Choose happier thoughts to replace your unhappy thoughts. Remember unhappy thoughts often lead to negative consequences.
- Be kind to others. Remember when we mistreat others, we feel bad, and they do too.
- Own your part. When you learn from your mistakes you are a Happy Kid.
- Be respectful. Recognize the difference between what’s your business and what is not.
Download your free copy of the Seven Steps to a Happy Kid™ – use at home or in the classroom for a more peaceful and harmonious way of relating with others, and yourself.
Frequently Asked Questions
We are so grateful to all of the parents, professionals and educators for their wonderful questions about our model. We’ve compiled a list of questions and answers for you to utilize in discovering answers to your own questions about The Reality Formula for Kids. If you would like to add a question or two please do not hesitate to email us.
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Conscious Kids Camp
Reality Formula for Kids™ Coaching Sessions with Danielle Alvarez
As the Primary Educator for The Reality Formula™, Danielle offers families who are struggling with communication issues and challenging situations the opportunity to identify how they are playing out their dysfunctional family dynamics on the Unhappy Kid Triangle™, and to learn more effective tools for successfully moving off. See More…
Blog entries by Lynne that may interest you as a parent or educator:
To see a short demonstation of Lynne exhibiting what bully energy looks like when redirected and worked with rather than punished, and resisted, watch this 5 minute video of Lynne and her dog, Syrus, who perfectly models the bully energy.