Happy New Year! I want to thank you, and all of my readers, for your tremendous support throughout the past year! Your responses to my blog posts, and other writings inspire me to keep writing about the principles and tools of awareness that have helped me and those around me to bring greater harmony and more peace into our lives…
Category Archives: victim consciousness
How Do We Get Out Of The Victim Loop?
Recently a subscriber asked this question: “How I can be an observer of my being in observer consciousness? How can I pull back from my own observations of the manifestations of my own thought processes in order to see clearly where I am going wrong and where I can alter course to go right?? All I can see is the fog of my own thoughts (results of…
From “We-They” (Victim) Consciousness to Unity (Observer) Consciousness
Have you ever heard the saying, “if you spot it, you got it?” Or this one — “What we resist in others, is what persists in us?” These sayings are based on the guiding principle that teaches us that the world is a mirror. I have certainly noticed in myself, and in those around me, that the things…
Victim or Victor?
It’s quite natural for us to assume that the opposite of victim is victor. In reality, however, the role of victor is just another stop on the victim triangle on its way to victim. The “victor” may stand with a conquering foot planted firmly on their victim, loudly proclaiming victory; however they are still at war;they…
Enlightenment via Nightmare …
photo credit: Wonderlane Watching and questioning my inner thoughts is a process I apply daily to my personal reality. It is a process that allows me to make peace & realign with Reality in regard to my own innermost struggles (like the one I described in my previous post triggered by a recent nightmare). I have come to see inner struggles…
Category Archives: victim consciousness
2012, A Year of Decision — Will We Go Forward or Back?
Happy New Year! I want to thank you, and all of my readers, for your tremendous support throughout the past year! Your responses to my blog posts, and other writings inspire me to keep writing about the principles and tools of awareness that have helped me and those around me to bring greater harmony and more peace into our lives…
How Do We Get Out Of The Victim Loop?
Recently a subscriber asked this question: “How I can be an observer of my being in observer consciousness? How can I pull back from my own observations of the manifestations of my own thought processes in order to see clearly where I am going wrong and where I can alter course to go right?? All I can see is the fog of my own thoughts (results of…
From “We-They” (Victim) Consciousness to Unity (Observer) Consciousness
Have you ever heard the saying, “if you spot it, you got it?” Or this one — “What we resist in others, is what persists in us?” These sayings are based on the guiding principle that teaches us that the world is a mirror. I have certainly noticed in myself, and in those around me, that the things…
Victim or Victor?
It’s quite natural for us to assume that the opposite of victim is victor. In reality, however, the role of victor is just another stop on the victim triangle on its way to victim. The “victor” may stand with a conquering foot planted firmly on their victim, loudly proclaiming victory; however they are still at war;they…
Enlightenment via Nightmare …
photo credit: Wonderlane Watching and questioning my inner thoughts is a process I apply daily to my personal reality. It is a process that allows me to make peace & realign with Reality in regard to my own innermost struggles (like the one I described in my previous post triggered by a recent nightmare). I have come to see inner struggles…
Category Archives: victim consciousness
2012, A Year of Decision — Will We Go Forward or Back?
Happy New Year! I want to thank you, and all of my readers, for your tremendous support throughout the past year! Your responses to my blog posts, and other writings inspire me to keep writing about the principles and tools of awareness that have helped me and those around me to bring greater harmony and more peace into our lives…
How Do We Get Out Of The Victim Loop?
Recently a subscriber asked this question: “How I can be an observer of my being in observer consciousness? How can I pull back from my own observations of the manifestations of my own thought processes in order to see clearly where I am going wrong and where I can alter course to go right?? All I can see is the fog of my own thoughts (results of…
From “We-They” (Victim) Consciousness to Unity (Observer) Consciousness
Have you ever heard the saying, “if you spot it, you got it?” Or this one — “What we resist in others, is what persists in us?” These sayings are based on the guiding principle that teaches us that the world is a mirror. I have certainly noticed in myself, and in those around me, that the things…
Victim or Victor?
It’s quite natural for us to assume that the opposite of victim is victor. In reality, however, the role of victor is just another stop on the victim triangle on its way to victim. The “victor” may stand with a conquering foot planted firmly on their victim, loudly proclaiming victory; however they are still at war;they…
Enlightenment via Nightmare …
photo credit: Wonderlane Watching and questioning my inner thoughts is a process I apply daily to my personal reality. It is a process that allows me to make peace & realign with Reality in regard to my own innermost struggles (like the one I described in my previous post triggered by a recent nightmare). I have come to see inner struggles…
Category Archives: victim consciousness
2012, A Year of Decision — Will We Go Forward or Back?
Happy New Year! I want to thank you, and all of my readers, for your tremendous support throughout the past year! Your responses to my blog posts, and other writings inspire me to keep writing about the principles and tools of awareness that have helped me and those around me to bring greater harmony and more peace into our lives…
How Do We Get Out Of The Victim Loop?
Recently a subscriber asked this question: “How I can be an observer of my being in observer consciousness? How can I pull back from my own observations of the manifestations of my own thought processes in order to see clearly where I am going wrong and where I can alter course to go right?? All I can see is the fog of my own thoughts (results of…
From “We-They” (Victim) Consciousness to Unity (Observer) Consciousness
Have you ever heard the saying, “if you spot it, you got it?” Or this one — “What we resist in others, is what persists in us?” These sayings are based on the guiding principle that teaches us that the world is a mirror. I have certainly noticed in myself, and in those around me, that the things…
Victim or Victor?
It’s quite natural for us to assume that the opposite of victim is victor. In reality, however, the role of victor is just another stop on the victim triangle on its way to victim. The “victor” may stand with a conquering foot planted firmly on their victim, loudly proclaiming victory; however they are still at war;they…
Enlightenment via Nightmare …
photo credit: Wonderlane Watching and questioning my inner thoughts is a process I apply daily to my personal reality. It is a process that allows me to make peace & realign with Reality in regard to my own innermost struggles (like the one I described in my previous post triggered by a recent nightmare). I have come to see inner struggles…
Category Archives: victim consciousness
2012, A Year of Decision — Will We Go Forward or Back?
Happy New Year! I want to thank you, and all of my readers, for your tremendous support throughout the past year! Your responses to my blog posts, and other writings inspire me to keep writing about the principles and tools of awareness that have helped me and those around me to bring greater harmony and more peace into our lives…
How Do We Get Out Of The Victim Loop?
Recently a subscriber asked this question: “How I can be an observer of my being in observer consciousness? How can I pull back from my own observations of the manifestations of my own thought processes in order to see clearly where I am going wrong and where I can alter course to go right?? All I can see is the fog of my own thoughts (results of…
From “We-They” (Victim) Consciousness to Unity (Observer) Consciousness
Have you ever heard the saying, “if you spot it, you got it?” Or this one — “What we resist in others, is what persists in us?” These sayings are based on the guiding principle that teaches us that the world is a mirror. I have certainly noticed in myself, and in those around me, that the things…
Victim or Victor?
It’s quite natural for us to assume that the opposite of victim is victor. In reality, however, the role of victor is just another stop on the victim triangle on its way to victim. The “victor” may stand with a conquering foot planted firmly on their victim, loudly proclaiming victory; however they are still at war;they…
Enlightenment via Nightmare …
photo credit: Wonderlane Watching and questioning my inner thoughts is a process I apply daily to my personal reality. It is a process that allows me to make peace & realign with Reality in regard to my own innermost struggles (like the one I described in my previous post triggered by a recent nightmare). I have come to see inner struggles…
Category Archives: victim consciousness
2012, A Year of Decision — Will We Go Forward or Back?
Happy New Year! I want to thank you, and all of my readers, for your tremendous support throughout the past year! Your responses to my blog posts, and other writings inspire me to keep writing about the principles and tools of awareness that have helped me and those around me to bring greater harmony and more peace into our lives…
How Do We Get Out Of The Victim Loop?
Recently a subscriber asked this question: “How I can be an observer of my being in observer consciousness? How can I pull back from my own observations of the manifestations of my own thought processes in order to see clearly where I am going wrong and where I can alter course to go right?? All I can see is the fog of my own thoughts (results of…
From “We-They” (Victim) Consciousness to Unity (Observer) Consciousness
Have you ever heard the saying, “if you spot it, you got it?” Or this one — “What we resist in others, is what persists in us?” These sayings are based on the guiding principle that teaches us that the world is a mirror. I have certainly noticed in myself, and in those around me, that the things…
Victim or Victor?
It’s quite natural for us to assume that the opposite of victim is victor. In reality, however, the role of victor is just another stop on the victim triangle on its way to victim. The “victor” may stand with a conquering foot planted firmly on their victim, loudly proclaiming victory; however they are still at war;they…
Enlightenment via Nightmare …
photo credit: Wonderlane Watching and questioning my inner thoughts is a process I apply daily to my personal reality. It is a process that allows me to make peace & realign with Reality in regard to my own innermost struggles (like the one I described in my previous post triggered by a recent nightmare). I have come to see inner struggles…
Category Archives: victim consciousness
2012, A Year of Decision — Will We Go Forward or Back?
Happy New Year! I want to thank you, and all of my readers, for your tremendous support throughout the past year! Your responses to my blog posts, and other writings inspire me to keep writing about the principles and tools of awareness that have helped me and those around me to bring greater harmony and more peace into our lives…
How Do We Get Out Of The Victim Loop?
Recently a subscriber asked this question: “How I can be an observer of my being in observer consciousness? How can I pull back from my own observations of the manifestations of my own thought processes in order to see clearly where I am going wrong and where I can alter course to go right?? All I can see is the fog of my own thoughts (results of…
From “We-They” (Victim) Consciousness to Unity (Observer) Consciousness
Have you ever heard the saying, “if you spot it, you got it?” Or this one — “What we resist in others, is what persists in us?” These sayings are based on the guiding principle that teaches us that the world is a mirror. I have certainly noticed in myself, and in those around me, that the things…
Victim or Victor?
It’s quite natural for us to assume that the opposite of victim is victor. In reality, however, the role of victor is just another stop on the victim triangle on its way to victim. The “victor” may stand with a conquering foot planted firmly on their victim, loudly proclaiming victory; however they are still at war;they…
Enlightenment via Nightmare …
photo credit: Wonderlane Watching and questioning my inner thoughts is a process I apply daily to my personal reality. It is a process that allows me to make peace & realign with Reality in regard to my own innermost struggles (like the one I described in my previous post triggered by a recent nightmare). I have come to see inner struggles…
The Three Faces of Victim
An Overview of the Drama Triangle By Lynne Forrest Whether we know it, or not, most of us react to life as victims. Whenever we refuse to take responsibility for ourselves, we are unconsciously choosing to react as victim. This inevitably creates feelings of anger, fear, guilt or inadequacy and leaves us feeling betrayed, or…
The Body Reflects Our Beliefs
The mind rules the body. Through my work, I have come to see just how true those words are. What we believe determines not only our health, but the physical stance and posture we assume, and that physicality becomes the way we communicate to others about who we are and what we believe. Our body is…
Life As It’s Designed To Be …
I posted this on my Facebook page this morning, and thought it “blog-worthy.” ‘The choices we make are an accurate reflection of our own emotional frequency. There can be no mistake. Our life & the people in it, show us exactly what we believe about ourselves & the world around us. This is life as…
Reality Principles for Peace
Reality is what is. Reality has a structure that operates on certain laws, like, for instance, the law of gravity, that are undeniably what is, no matter the circumstances. There are basic principles of Reality that have been observed by the wise in every sect, culture, and part of the world, since the time of the…
Christ Modeled Forgiveness, Not Victim Consciousness …
I understand how “pollyannish” forgiveness can appear to some, especially if we think forgiveness means that we must “pretend” or tolerate abuse! And yet, when we look to the Christ example, we come to see that a big part of what He did was to demonstrate the power of forgiveness in the midst of unthinkable abuse. Jesus…
“How do I meditate?”
This question is one I am often asked. It prompts my left brain thinking mind to want to come up with a technical analysis and plan, a “how to” manual on meditation. If I did such, perhaps I could call it, “The Right Way To Meditate. I’m being a bit tongue-in-cheek, and irreverent perhaps; I do not mean to put down meditation.…
Why Forgiveness?
We as humans struggle with the concept of forgiveness. To many of us, to forgive, means to “roll over and take it,” and THAT, we’re not having! Nosiree! So we “make them pay.” We punish them with our resentment, and we gossip to our friends about how they hurt us. Do we feel better now?…
Life Gives Us Instant Feedback Every Moment
Although I have worked with people for many years, listening to their personal stories and exploring with them ways to address their life dramas, I remain fascinated by the endless variety of ways that each individual’s life reflects their particular core beliefs about themselves and life. I mean our lives reflect our beliefs perfectly! I see this simple truth…
How to Find Joy in Christmas Giving …
We had a big Christmas gift-giving adventure yesterday! It was truly an odyssey in its own right, as our family of five, Daniel, myself and our daughter with two grandchildren, got off our regular, “beaten path,” and drove the side streets, making our way through various neighborhoods, some deemed “poor,” others considered “better areas,” meaning, as the…
How Do We Find Inner Peace in the Midst of World Tragedy?
I’ve been asked to say something about the shocking events of the school shooting tragedy in Connecticut this past week where at least 27 people died at the hands of an immature child, albeit in a man’s body. How can we perceive the tragedy in Connecticut in a way that brings anything but terror and outrage, much…
Being all the way to Doing … and Back Again
In a state of morning surrender I abide, for long seconds at a time, in The Vibrating Silence. Being in that Presence, bathing in its Essence, one with it … There is no separation. No thought, not even the awareness of a self, is possible here. Then, suddenly the Observer Within notices the experience — it stands back to see that state…
Meeting in the Middle; The War of the Opposites
When we are spiritually mature, we live at the dividing line, within ourselves and out in the world, between polarized opposites — between black and white, right and wrong — right where any polarized notion, position, or viewpoint meets the other point of view. Through our maturing process, we move in towards the centerline where the opposites meet (and often clash) and…
What does it mean to set boundaries?
Healthy boundaries are not as much about drawing lines in the sand that then must be boldly defended, as they are the natural result of a mindset that comes from believing that we are safe, loved, and deserving of kindness and respect. If we expect to be mistreated, perhaps because that’s what we have experienced in the…
Lessons For A Grandson About Choosing To Be Happy
My daughter and my three grandchildren were visiting recently and I suggested that we take the dogs and walk over to see the new cabin our neighbor was building just up the road. Everyone was enthusiastic about going except for my youngest grandson who just turned four. He was immediately resistant. It was too hot, he said.…
Finding the Gifts in Dysfunction
Sometimes there is concern expressed that we might actually mislead or make matters worse by looking for the gifts in every situation, especially when we’re seeking the positives in painful relationships with those who may NOT have our best interest in mind. The concern is that seeking to find gratitude for such situations in our lives might…
Finding Guidelines Back To Reality …
The Guiding Principles of Reality are an alternative way of seeing the world that offers a happier lens through which to view life than that of the more widespread and dominant way of seeing life through the lens of a victim. This victim consciousness, that most of us engage in, prompts us to look outside ourselves to find “the…
But There Are REAL Victims …
I often am asked questions about how the guiding principles apply in the case of truly traumatic life happenings, such as the holocaust, etc … Or as one student put it, “How does the construct of a transformational approach to the “victim triangle” address and apply in situations of such severity ? I always appreciate the opportunity to…
The Importance of “Feeling our Feelings …”
I do understand the importance of “feeling our feelings” in the process of emotional healing. I DO value the part of the process that recognizes and releases emotion; feelings are energetic impulses that act like messengers whose job is to report to us the state of our current vibrational frequency, and to show us the unhappy…
Trinity or Triangle? The Faces of The Divine Trinity and It’s Shadow
In the Bible we are told that God made man in his own image (Gen 1:27). Christianity, as well as many other ancient teachings are founded on the revelation of God as being a holy trinity, “three-in-one”: “For there are three that bear record in heaven, the Father, the Word (Son), and the Holy Spirit: and these…
Lessons For Kids From The Bully Mat …
Often when our key team players and family members come together, we bring our youngsters (children and grandchildren). It’s great fun for all, even those inevitable times when there’s some kind of fall-out between kids, for then it becomes a learning opportunity for all. During such fall-out, we use the real life situation to teach the children…
Parallel Paths and Polar Opposites …
Have you ever had the thought that just maybe there are people around us who are living parallel paths to our own? That perhaps they, simply by living their own lives, grant us an opportunity, to see the choices we did NOT make, the paths we did not take? I have had someone who has lived…
