Gratitude Dispels Fear …

photo credit: jakub_hla I was toss­ing and turn­ing dur­ing the wee hours of the night a while back. (I’ve found that the early AM hours are the time when the ego does its worst work.) This sort of sleep­less­ness has assailed me before. I awaken abruptly and lie there for hours com­pletely over­run with thoughts […]

The Body Reflects Our Beliefs


The mind rules the body. Through my work, I have come to see just how true those words are. What we believe deter­mines not only our health, but the phys­i­cal stance and pos­ture we assume, and that phys­i­cal­ity becomes the way we com­mu­ni­cate to oth­ers about who we are and what we believe. Our body […]

Finding the Gifts in Dysfunction

Some­times there is con­cern expressed that we might actu­ally mis­lead or make mat­ters worse by look­ing for the gifts in every sit­u­a­tion, espe­cially when we’re seek­ing the pos­i­tives in painful rela­tion­ships with those who may NOT have our best inter­est in mind. The con­cern is that seek­ing to find grat­i­tude for such sit­u­a­tions in our […]

Does forgiveness mean blaming the victim?

photo credit: kafer­ris A sug­ges­tion to prac­tice for­give­ness towards those at whose hands we have felt at the mercy of, ter­ror­ized and abused by, is eas­ily mis­read as con­don­ing or tol­er­at­ing the unac­cept­able. It is a com­monly held notion that it is healthy to main­tain a cer­tain level of jus­ti­fied anger towards those we have […]

Persecuting ourselves on the victim triangle


Hope­fully we are grow­ing in aware­ness of how we play out the vic­tim tri­an­gle in our rela­tion­ship with oth­ers. But are we as aware of how we play out the vic­tim tri­an­gle inter­nally with our­selves? As I ques­tioned who I become when I believe the thought that I should be dif­fer­ent, I saw how I […]