Category Archives: Universal Laws

The spiritual and metaphysical principles that govern all manifestation.

Personal Transformation

Lynne “After” w/ same grand­daugh­ter, now age 6 Some­one asked me recently how I saw myself regard­ing this work. They asked if I think of myself as an “expert,” or as an “author­ity on vic­tim con­scious­ness.” It was a good ques­tion, and I found myself think­ing about how I DO see myself. Of course, the true answer is that how I think…

Is My Message Anti-Christian? (part two)

photo credit: Ali­ce­Pop­korn I con­tinue here my unfold­ing story of my own jour­ney to faith for your own judg­ment in answer to the ques­tion, Is my mes­sage anti-Christian? In part one, I describe the expe­ri­ence of grow­ing up in a home that was very polar­ized in their view of spir­i­tu­al­ity. Here I describe the effect of that polarity…

Fighting Reality Generates more of What We’re Fighting Against!

photo credit: popculturegeek.com Let me start by say­ing that, per­son­ally, I do not tend to take on causes of any sort — sim­ply because I’ve noticed that to take on a cause gen­er­ally means I must iden­tify one side as the vic­tim, and the other side then must auto­mat­i­cally become the “bad guy,” or per­se­cu­tor. To me this misses the…

Reality’s Guiding Principles: What You Resist Persists

There are basic uni­ver­sal prin­ci­ples that define Real­ity. Wise men of every gen­er­a­tion have observed these uni­ver­sal prin­ci­ples at work in the nat­ural world. For instance, we know that Real­ity is a medium that sup­ports life, in the same way that water is a medium that sup­ports aquatic life. We know from our wis­dom teach­ers that this medium…

Does forgiveness mean blaming the victim?

photo credit: kafer­ris A sug­ges­tion to prac­tice for­give­ness towards those at whose hands we have felt at the mercy of, ter­ror­ized and abused by, is eas­ily mis­read as con­don­ing or tol­er­at­ing the unac­cept­able. It is a com­monly held notion that it is healthy to main­tain a cer­tain level of jus­ti­fied anger towards those we have felt mistreated…

Comparing Ourselves to Others

photo credit: Eddi van W. Often we may feel com­pelled to com­pare our­selves to oth­ers as a way to eval­u­ate our progress. To do so is defeatist how­ever, sim­ply because it is not how we are doing in rela­tion to oth­ers that essen­tially mat­ters. Such com­par­isons tell us noth­ing really — they can­not give us a real­is­tic mea­sure of where…

Judging Others and Giving Advice

photo credit: shan­nonkrin­gen Here’s a few sober­ing, and lib­er­at­ing, real­iza­tions I’ve had about the nature of judg­ment and advice which you might find worth reflect­ing on: What we accuse oth­ers of is what we have judged and denied in our­selves; the advice we give oth­ers is more often meant for us! The things we want oth­ers to…

The Victim Addiction

photo credit: Lomo-Cam Vic­tim con­scious­ness is the num­ber one addic­tion that under­lies all addic­tions … which may at least par­tially explain why it is so hard for some of us to take space from those who abuse us. We are com­monly addicted to being on the vic­tim tri­an­gle with one another; we are addicted to rescuing…

We teach others how to treat us

photo credit: ????? ??????? Hav­ing come from a fam­ily of much dys­func­tion: addic­tion, rage, depres­sion, etc., I under­stand first hand the expe­ri­ence that comes from feel­ings of hope­less des­per­a­tion. The insan­ity in my own life did not begin to dimin­ish until I started notic­ing, and tak­ing respon­si­bil­ity for, the way I inter­acted with oth­ers, until I rec­og­nized that my reactions…

Striving for, or Surrendering to, Source?

photo credit: jsayer I’ve found life flows smoothly when I keep my focus on Source (rather than on doing what I think Source wants me to do for Him). Source sim­ply wants ME, all of me, lock, stock & bar­rel, as His own. To give our­selves fully to that Life Force, what­ever one may choose to call It,…

Category Archives: Universal Laws

The spiritual and metaphysical principles that govern all manifestation.

Personal Transformation

Lynne “After” w/ same grand­daugh­ter, now age 6 Some­one asked me recently how I saw myself regard­ing this work. They asked if I think of myself as an “expert,” or as an “author­ity on vic­tim con­scious­ness.” It was a good ques­tion, and I found myself think­ing about how I DO see myself. Of course, the true answer is that how I think…

Is My Message Anti-Christian? (part two)

photo credit: Ali­ce­Pop­korn I con­tinue here my unfold­ing story of my own jour­ney to faith for your own judg­ment in answer to the ques­tion, Is my mes­sage anti-Christian? In part one, I describe the expe­ri­ence of grow­ing up in a home that was very polar­ized in their view of spir­i­tu­al­ity. Here I describe the effect of that polarity…

Fighting Reality Generates more of What We’re Fighting Against!

photo credit: popculturegeek.com Let me start by say­ing that, per­son­ally, I do not tend to take on causes of any sort — sim­ply because I’ve noticed that to take on a cause gen­er­ally means I must iden­tify one side as the vic­tim, and the other side then must auto­mat­i­cally become the “bad guy,” or per­se­cu­tor. To me this misses the…

Reality’s Guiding Principles: What You Resist Persists

There are basic uni­ver­sal prin­ci­ples that define Real­ity. Wise men of every gen­er­a­tion have observed these uni­ver­sal prin­ci­ples at work in the nat­ural world. For instance, we know that Real­ity is a medium that sup­ports life, in the same way that water is a medium that sup­ports aquatic life. We know from our wis­dom teach­ers that this medium…

Does forgiveness mean blaming the victim?

photo credit: kafer­ris A sug­ges­tion to prac­tice for­give­ness towards those at whose hands we have felt at the mercy of, ter­ror­ized and abused by, is eas­ily mis­read as con­don­ing or tol­er­at­ing the unac­cept­able. It is a com­monly held notion that it is healthy to main­tain a cer­tain level of jus­ti­fied anger towards those we have felt mistreated…

Comparing Ourselves to Others

photo credit: Eddi van W. Often we may feel com­pelled to com­pare our­selves to oth­ers as a way to eval­u­ate our progress. To do so is defeatist how­ever, sim­ply because it is not how we are doing in rela­tion to oth­ers that essen­tially mat­ters. Such com­par­isons tell us noth­ing really — they can­not give us a real­is­tic mea­sure of where…

Judging Others and Giving Advice

photo credit: shan­nonkrin­gen Here’s a few sober­ing, and lib­er­at­ing, real­iza­tions I’ve had about the nature of judg­ment and advice which you might find worth reflect­ing on: What we accuse oth­ers of is what we have judged and denied in our­selves; the advice we give oth­ers is more often meant for us! The things we want oth­ers to…

The Victim Addiction

photo credit: Lomo-Cam Vic­tim con­scious­ness is the num­ber one addic­tion that under­lies all addic­tions … which may at least par­tially explain why it is so hard for some of us to take space from those who abuse us. We are com­monly addicted to being on the vic­tim tri­an­gle with one another; we are addicted to rescuing…

We teach others how to treat us

photo credit: ????? ??????? Hav­ing come from a fam­ily of much dys­func­tion: addic­tion, rage, depres­sion, etc., I under­stand first hand the expe­ri­ence that comes from feel­ings of hope­less des­per­a­tion. The insan­ity in my own life did not begin to dimin­ish until I started notic­ing, and tak­ing respon­si­bil­ity for, the way I inter­acted with oth­ers, until I rec­og­nized that my reactions…

Striving for, or Surrendering to, Source?

photo credit: jsayer I’ve found life flows smoothly when I keep my focus on Source (rather than on doing what I think Source wants me to do for Him). Source sim­ply wants ME, all of me, lock, stock & bar­rel, as His own. To give our­selves fully to that Life Force, what­ever one may choose to call It,…

Category Archives: Universal Laws

The spiritual and metaphysical principles that govern all manifestation.

Personal Transformation

Lynne “After” w/ same grand­daugh­ter, now age 6 Some­one asked me recently how I saw myself regard­ing this work. They asked if I think of myself as an “expert,” or as an “author­ity on vic­tim con­scious­ness.” It was a good ques­tion, and I found myself think­ing about how I DO see myself. Of course, the true answer is that how I think…

Is My Message Anti-Christian? (part two)

photo credit: Ali­ce­Pop­korn I con­tinue here my unfold­ing story of my own jour­ney to faith for your own judg­ment in answer to the ques­tion, Is my mes­sage anti-Christian? In part one, I describe the expe­ri­ence of grow­ing up in a home that was very polar­ized in their view of spir­i­tu­al­ity. Here I describe the effect of that polarity…

Fighting Reality Generates more of What We’re Fighting Against!

photo credit: popculturegeek.com Let me start by say­ing that, per­son­ally, I do not tend to take on causes of any sort — sim­ply because I’ve noticed that to take on a cause gen­er­ally means I must iden­tify one side as the vic­tim, and the other side then must auto­mat­i­cally become the “bad guy,” or per­se­cu­tor. To me this misses the…

Reality’s Guiding Principles: What You Resist Persists

There are basic uni­ver­sal prin­ci­ples that define Real­ity. Wise men of every gen­er­a­tion have observed these uni­ver­sal prin­ci­ples at work in the nat­ural world. For instance, we know that Real­ity is a medium that sup­ports life, in the same way that water is a medium that sup­ports aquatic life. We know from our wis­dom teach­ers that this medium…

Does forgiveness mean blaming the victim?

photo credit: kafer­ris A sug­ges­tion to prac­tice for­give­ness towards those at whose hands we have felt at the mercy of, ter­ror­ized and abused by, is eas­ily mis­read as con­don­ing or tol­er­at­ing the unac­cept­able. It is a com­monly held notion that it is healthy to main­tain a cer­tain level of jus­ti­fied anger towards those we have felt mistreated…

Comparing Ourselves to Others

photo credit: Eddi van W. Often we may feel com­pelled to com­pare our­selves to oth­ers as a way to eval­u­ate our progress. To do so is defeatist how­ever, sim­ply because it is not how we are doing in rela­tion to oth­ers that essen­tially mat­ters. Such com­par­isons tell us noth­ing really — they can­not give us a real­is­tic mea­sure of where…

Judging Others and Giving Advice

photo credit: shan­nonkrin­gen Here’s a few sober­ing, and lib­er­at­ing, real­iza­tions I’ve had about the nature of judg­ment and advice which you might find worth reflect­ing on: What we accuse oth­ers of is what we have judged and denied in our­selves; the advice we give oth­ers is more often meant for us! The things we want oth­ers to…

The Victim Addiction

photo credit: Lomo-Cam Vic­tim con­scious­ness is the num­ber one addic­tion that under­lies all addic­tions … which may at least par­tially explain why it is so hard for some of us to take space from those who abuse us. We are com­monly addicted to being on the vic­tim tri­an­gle with one another; we are addicted to rescuing…

We teach others how to treat us

photo credit: ????? ??????? Hav­ing come from a fam­ily of much dys­func­tion: addic­tion, rage, depres­sion, etc., I under­stand first hand the expe­ri­ence that comes from feel­ings of hope­less des­per­a­tion. The insan­ity in my own life did not begin to dimin­ish until I started notic­ing, and tak­ing respon­si­bil­ity for, the way I inter­acted with oth­ers, until I rec­og­nized that my reactions…

Striving for, or Surrendering to, Source?

photo credit: jsayer I’ve found life flows smoothly when I keep my focus on Source (rather than on doing what I think Source wants me to do for Him). Source sim­ply wants ME, all of me, lock, stock & bar­rel, as His own. To give our­selves fully to that Life Force, what­ever one may choose to call It,…

Category Archives: Universal Laws

The spiritual and metaphysical principles that govern all manifestation.

Personal Transformation

Lynne “After” w/ same grand­daugh­ter, now age 6 Some­one asked me recently how I saw myself regard­ing this work. They asked if I think of myself as an “expert,” or as an “author­ity on vic­tim con­scious­ness.” It was a good ques­tion, and I found myself think­ing about how I DO see myself. Of course, the true answer is that how I think…

Is My Message Anti-Christian? (part two)

photo credit: Ali­ce­Pop­korn I con­tinue here my unfold­ing story of my own jour­ney to faith for your own judg­ment in answer to the ques­tion, Is my mes­sage anti-Christian? In part one, I describe the expe­ri­ence of grow­ing up in a home that was very polar­ized in their view of spir­i­tu­al­ity. Here I describe the effect of that polarity…

Fighting Reality Generates more of What We’re Fighting Against!

photo credit: popculturegeek.com Let me start by say­ing that, per­son­ally, I do not tend to take on causes of any sort — sim­ply because I’ve noticed that to take on a cause gen­er­ally means I must iden­tify one side as the vic­tim, and the other side then must auto­mat­i­cally become the “bad guy,” or per­se­cu­tor. To me this misses the…

Reality’s Guiding Principles: What You Resist Persists

There are basic uni­ver­sal prin­ci­ples that define Real­ity. Wise men of every gen­er­a­tion have observed these uni­ver­sal prin­ci­ples at work in the nat­ural world. For instance, we know that Real­ity is a medium that sup­ports life, in the same way that water is a medium that sup­ports aquatic life. We know from our wis­dom teach­ers that this medium…

Does forgiveness mean blaming the victim?

photo credit: kafer­ris A sug­ges­tion to prac­tice for­give­ness towards those at whose hands we have felt at the mercy of, ter­ror­ized and abused by, is eas­ily mis­read as con­don­ing or tol­er­at­ing the unac­cept­able. It is a com­monly held notion that it is healthy to main­tain a cer­tain level of jus­ti­fied anger towards those we have felt mistreated…

Comparing Ourselves to Others

photo credit: Eddi van W. Often we may feel com­pelled to com­pare our­selves to oth­ers as a way to eval­u­ate our progress. To do so is defeatist how­ever, sim­ply because it is not how we are doing in rela­tion to oth­ers that essen­tially mat­ters. Such com­par­isons tell us noth­ing really — they can­not give us a real­is­tic mea­sure of where…

Judging Others and Giving Advice

photo credit: shan­nonkrin­gen Here’s a few sober­ing, and lib­er­at­ing, real­iza­tions I’ve had about the nature of judg­ment and advice which you might find worth reflect­ing on: What we accuse oth­ers of is what we have judged and denied in our­selves; the advice we give oth­ers is more often meant for us! The things we want oth­ers to…

The Victim Addiction

photo credit: Lomo-Cam Vic­tim con­scious­ness is the num­ber one addic­tion that under­lies all addic­tions … which may at least par­tially explain why it is so hard for some of us to take space from those who abuse us. We are com­monly addicted to being on the vic­tim tri­an­gle with one another; we are addicted to rescuing…

We teach others how to treat us

photo credit: ????? ??????? Hav­ing come from a fam­ily of much dys­func­tion: addic­tion, rage, depres­sion, etc., I under­stand first hand the expe­ri­ence that comes from feel­ings of hope­less des­per­a­tion. The insan­ity in my own life did not begin to dimin­ish until I started notic­ing, and tak­ing respon­si­bil­ity for, the way I inter­acted with oth­ers, until I rec­og­nized that my reactions…

Striving for, or Surrendering to, Source?

photo credit: jsayer I’ve found life flows smoothly when I keep my focus on Source (rather than on doing what I think Source wants me to do for Him). Source sim­ply wants ME, all of me, lock, stock & bar­rel, as His own. To give our­selves fully to that Life Force, what­ever one may choose to call It,…

Category Archives: Universal Laws

The spiritual and metaphysical principles that govern all manifestation.

Personal Transformation

Lynne “After” w/ same grand­daugh­ter, now age 6 Some­one asked me recently how I saw myself regard­ing this work. They asked if I think of myself as an “expert,” or as an “author­ity on vic­tim con­scious­ness.” It was a good ques­tion, and I found myself think­ing about how I DO see myself. Of course, the true answer is that how I think…

Is My Message Anti-Christian? (part two)

photo credit: Ali­ce­Pop­korn I con­tinue here my unfold­ing story of my own jour­ney to faith for your own judg­ment in answer to the ques­tion, Is my mes­sage anti-Christian? In part one, I describe the expe­ri­ence of grow­ing up in a home that was very polar­ized in their view of spir­i­tu­al­ity. Here I describe the effect of that polarity…

Fighting Reality Generates more of What We’re Fighting Against!

photo credit: popculturegeek.com Let me start by say­ing that, per­son­ally, I do not tend to take on causes of any sort — sim­ply because I’ve noticed that to take on a cause gen­er­ally means I must iden­tify one side as the vic­tim, and the other side then must auto­mat­i­cally become the “bad guy,” or per­se­cu­tor. To me this misses the…

Reality’s Guiding Principles: What You Resist Persists

There are basic uni­ver­sal prin­ci­ples that define Real­ity. Wise men of every gen­er­a­tion have observed these uni­ver­sal prin­ci­ples at work in the nat­ural world. For instance, we know that Real­ity is a medium that sup­ports life, in the same way that water is a medium that sup­ports aquatic life. We know from our wis­dom teach­ers that this medium…

Does forgiveness mean blaming the victim?

photo credit: kafer­ris A sug­ges­tion to prac­tice for­give­ness towards those at whose hands we have felt at the mercy of, ter­ror­ized and abused by, is eas­ily mis­read as con­don­ing or tol­er­at­ing the unac­cept­able. It is a com­monly held notion that it is healthy to main­tain a cer­tain level of jus­ti­fied anger towards those we have felt mistreated…

Comparing Ourselves to Others

photo credit: Eddi van W. Often we may feel com­pelled to com­pare our­selves to oth­ers as a way to eval­u­ate our progress. To do so is defeatist how­ever, sim­ply because it is not how we are doing in rela­tion to oth­ers that essen­tially mat­ters. Such com­par­isons tell us noth­ing really — they can­not give us a real­is­tic mea­sure of where…

Judging Others and Giving Advice

photo credit: shan­nonkrin­gen Here’s a few sober­ing, and lib­er­at­ing, real­iza­tions I’ve had about the nature of judg­ment and advice which you might find worth reflect­ing on: What we accuse oth­ers of is what we have judged and denied in our­selves; the advice we give oth­ers is more often meant for us! The things we want oth­ers to…

The Victim Addiction

photo credit: Lomo-Cam Vic­tim con­scious­ness is the num­ber one addic­tion that under­lies all addic­tions … which may at least par­tially explain why it is so hard for some of us to take space from those who abuse us. We are com­monly addicted to being on the vic­tim tri­an­gle with one another; we are addicted to rescuing…

We teach others how to treat us

photo credit: ????? ??????? Hav­ing come from a fam­ily of much dys­func­tion: addic­tion, rage, depres­sion, etc., I under­stand first hand the expe­ri­ence that comes from feel­ings of hope­less des­per­a­tion. The insan­ity in my own life did not begin to dimin­ish until I started notic­ing, and tak­ing respon­si­bil­ity for, the way I inter­acted with oth­ers, until I rec­og­nized that my reactions…

Striving for, or Surrendering to, Source?

photo credit: jsayer I’ve found life flows smoothly when I keep my focus on Source (rather than on doing what I think Source wants me to do for Him). Source sim­ply wants ME, all of me, lock, stock & bar­rel, as His own. To give our­selves fully to that Life Force, what­ever one may choose to call It,…

Category Archives: Universal Laws

The spiritual and metaphysical principles that govern all manifestation.

Personal Transformation

Lynne “After” w/ same grand­daugh­ter, now age 6 Some­one asked me recently how I saw myself regard­ing this work. They asked if I think of myself as an “expert,” or as an “author­ity on vic­tim con­scious­ness.” It was a good ques­tion, and I found myself think­ing about how I DO see myself. Of course, the true answer is that how I think…

Is My Message Anti-Christian? (part two)

photo credit: Ali­ce­Pop­korn I con­tinue here my unfold­ing story of my own jour­ney to faith for your own judg­ment in answer to the ques­tion, Is my mes­sage anti-Christian? In part one, I describe the expe­ri­ence of grow­ing up in a home that was very polar­ized in their view of spir­i­tu­al­ity. Here I describe the effect of that polarity…

Fighting Reality Generates more of What We’re Fighting Against!

photo credit: popculturegeek.com Let me start by say­ing that, per­son­ally, I do not tend to take on causes of any sort — sim­ply because I’ve noticed that to take on a cause gen­er­ally means I must iden­tify one side as the vic­tim, and the other side then must auto­mat­i­cally become the “bad guy,” or per­se­cu­tor. To me this misses the…

Reality’s Guiding Principles: What You Resist Persists

There are basic uni­ver­sal prin­ci­ples that define Real­ity. Wise men of every gen­er­a­tion have observed these uni­ver­sal prin­ci­ples at work in the nat­ural world. For instance, we know that Real­ity is a medium that sup­ports life, in the same way that water is a medium that sup­ports aquatic life. We know from our wis­dom teach­ers that this medium…

Does forgiveness mean blaming the victim?

photo credit: kafer­ris A sug­ges­tion to prac­tice for­give­ness towards those at whose hands we have felt at the mercy of, ter­ror­ized and abused by, is eas­ily mis­read as con­don­ing or tol­er­at­ing the unac­cept­able. It is a com­monly held notion that it is healthy to main­tain a cer­tain level of jus­ti­fied anger towards those we have felt mistreated…

Comparing Ourselves to Others

photo credit: Eddi van W. Often we may feel com­pelled to com­pare our­selves to oth­ers as a way to eval­u­ate our progress. To do so is defeatist how­ever, sim­ply because it is not how we are doing in rela­tion to oth­ers that essen­tially mat­ters. Such com­par­isons tell us noth­ing really — they can­not give us a real­is­tic mea­sure of where…

Judging Others and Giving Advice

photo credit: shan­nonkrin­gen Here’s a few sober­ing, and lib­er­at­ing, real­iza­tions I’ve had about the nature of judg­ment and advice which you might find worth reflect­ing on: What we accuse oth­ers of is what we have judged and denied in our­selves; the advice we give oth­ers is more often meant for us! The things we want oth­ers to…

The Victim Addiction

photo credit: Lomo-Cam Vic­tim con­scious­ness is the num­ber one addic­tion that under­lies all addic­tions … which may at least par­tially explain why it is so hard for some of us to take space from those who abuse us. We are com­monly addicted to being on the vic­tim tri­an­gle with one another; we are addicted to rescuing…

We teach others how to treat us

photo credit: ????? ??????? Hav­ing come from a fam­ily of much dys­func­tion: addic­tion, rage, depres­sion, etc., I under­stand first hand the expe­ri­ence that comes from feel­ings of hope­less des­per­a­tion. The insan­ity in my own life did not begin to dimin­ish until I started notic­ing, and tak­ing respon­si­bil­ity for, the way I inter­acted with oth­ers, until I rec­og­nized that my reactions…

Striving for, or Surrendering to, Source?

photo credit: jsayer I’ve found life flows smoothly when I keep my focus on Source (rather than on doing what I think Source wants me to do for Him). Source sim­ply wants ME, all of me, lock, stock & bar­rel, as His own. To give our­selves fully to that Life Force, what­ever one may choose to call It,…

Category Archives: Universal Laws

The spiritual and metaphysical principles that govern all manifestation.

Personal Transformation

Lynne “After” w/ same grand­daugh­ter, now age 6 Some­one asked me recently how I saw myself regard­ing this work. They asked if I think of myself as an “expert,” or as an “author­ity on vic­tim con­scious­ness.” It was a good ques­tion, and I found myself think­ing about how I DO see myself. Of course, the true answer is that how I think…

Is My Message Anti-Christian? (part two)

photo credit: Ali­ce­Pop­korn I con­tinue here my unfold­ing story of my own jour­ney to faith for your own judg­ment in answer to the ques­tion, Is my mes­sage anti-Christian? In part one, I describe the expe­ri­ence of grow­ing up in a home that was very polar­ized in their view of spir­i­tu­al­ity. Here I describe the effect of that polarity…

Fighting Reality Generates more of What We’re Fighting Against!

photo credit: popculturegeek.com Let me start by say­ing that, per­son­ally, I do not tend to take on causes of any sort — sim­ply because I’ve noticed that to take on a cause gen­er­ally means I must iden­tify one side as the vic­tim, and the other side then must auto­mat­i­cally become the “bad guy,” or per­se­cu­tor. To me this misses the…

Reality’s Guiding Principles: What You Resist Persists

There are basic uni­ver­sal prin­ci­ples that define Real­ity. Wise men of every gen­er­a­tion have observed these uni­ver­sal prin­ci­ples at work in the nat­ural world. For instance, we know that Real­ity is a medium that sup­ports life, in the same way that water is a medium that sup­ports aquatic life. We know from our wis­dom teach­ers that this medium…

Does forgiveness mean blaming the victim?

photo credit: kafer­ris A sug­ges­tion to prac­tice for­give­ness towards those at whose hands we have felt at the mercy of, ter­ror­ized and abused by, is eas­ily mis­read as con­don­ing or tol­er­at­ing the unac­cept­able. It is a com­monly held notion that it is healthy to main­tain a cer­tain level of jus­ti­fied anger towards those we have felt mistreated…

Comparing Ourselves to Others

photo credit: Eddi van W. Often we may feel com­pelled to com­pare our­selves to oth­ers as a way to eval­u­ate our progress. To do so is defeatist how­ever, sim­ply because it is not how we are doing in rela­tion to oth­ers that essen­tially mat­ters. Such com­par­isons tell us noth­ing really — they can­not give us a real­is­tic mea­sure of where…

Judging Others and Giving Advice

photo credit: shan­nonkrin­gen Here’s a few sober­ing, and lib­er­at­ing, real­iza­tions I’ve had about the nature of judg­ment and advice which you might find worth reflect­ing on: What we accuse oth­ers of is what we have judged and denied in our­selves; the advice we give oth­ers is more often meant for us! The things we want oth­ers to…

The Victim Addiction

photo credit: Lomo-Cam Vic­tim con­scious­ness is the num­ber one addic­tion that under­lies all addic­tions … which may at least par­tially explain why it is so hard for some of us to take space from those who abuse us. We are com­monly addicted to being on the vic­tim tri­an­gle with one another; we are addicted to rescuing…

We teach others how to treat us

photo credit: ????? ??????? Hav­ing come from a fam­ily of much dys­func­tion: addic­tion, rage, depres­sion, etc., I under­stand first hand the expe­ri­ence that comes from feel­ings of hope­less des­per­a­tion. The insan­ity in my own life did not begin to dimin­ish until I started notic­ing, and tak­ing respon­si­bil­ity for, the way I inter­acted with oth­ers, until I rec­og­nized that my reactions…

Striving for, or Surrendering to, Source?

photo credit: jsayer I’ve found life flows smoothly when I keep my focus on Source (rather than on doing what I think Source wants me to do for Him). Source sim­ply wants ME, all of me, lock, stock & bar­rel, as His own. To give our­selves fully to that Life Force, what­ever one may choose to call It,…

The Three Faces of Victim

An Overview of the Drama Tri­an­gle By Lynne For­rest Whether we know it, or not, most of us react to life as vic­tims. When­ever we refuse to take respon­si­bil­ity for our­selves, we are uncon­sciously choos­ing to react as vic­tim. This inevitably cre­ates feel­ings of anger, fear, guilt or inad­e­quacy and leaves us feel­ing betrayed, or…

The Importance of “Feeling our Feelings …”

I do under­stand the impor­tance of “feel­ing our feel­ings” in the process of emo­tional heal­ing. I DO value the part of the process that rec­og­nizes and releases emo­tion; feel­ings are ener­getic impulses that act like mes­sen­gers whose job is to report to us the state of our cur­rent vibra­tional fre­quency, and to show us the unhappy…

Trinity or Triangle? The Faces of The Divine Trinity and It’s Shadow

In the Bible we are told that God made man in his own image (Gen 1:27). Chris­tian­ity, as well as many other ancient teach­ings are founded on the rev­e­la­tion of God as being a holy trin­ity, “three-in-one”: “For there are three that bear record in heaven, the Father, the Word (Son), and the Holy Spirit: and these…

Lessons For Kids From The Bully Mat …

Often when our key team play­ers and fam­ily mem­bers come together, we bring our young­sters (chil­dren and grand­chil­dren). It’s great fun for all, even those inevitable times when there’s some kind of fall-out between kids, for then it becomes a learn­ing oppor­tu­nity for all. Dur­ing such fall-out, we use the real life sit­u­a­tion to teach the children…

Parallel Paths and Polar Opposites …

Have you ever had the thought that just maybe there are peo­ple around us who are liv­ing par­al­lel paths to our own? That per­haps they, sim­ply by liv­ing their own lives, grant us an oppor­tu­nity, to see the choices we did NOT make, the paths we did not take? I have had some­one who has lived…

Learning to Love Ourselves

I often talk to clients about the impor­tance of “lov­ing our­selves.” They often nod their heads in agree­ment –after all, it sounds good — but, if the truth be told, most of us have no idea of how to go about doing this thing called “lov­ing our­selves,” and for many of us the whole idea sounds a bit…

Teaching Children Freedom & Self-Responsibility Through The Guiding Principles of Reality

Our team is launch­ing a pilot pro­gram to help kids stay off the Bully Tri­an­gle. One of our finest local ele­men­tary schools has gra­ciously agreed to be our model school for the Real­ity For­mula for Kids. (So watch for The Real­ity For­mula for Kids,* “it may be com­ing to a school near you soon! At least we HOPE

Are You Making A Case ‘Against’ or ‘For’ You?

We do make a case, don’t we? We all do. Every one of us makes a strong case in our mind against some ‘thing’ we believe should be dif­fer­ent. And we are sure we are right. We use the ‘facts’ we gather from oth­ers who share our stance, as well as the ‘evi­dence’ we have col­lected from our…

The Things We Teach Our Children …

The video of the dis­grun­tled dad who taught his ungrate­ful daugh­ter a les­son with his Colt 45 and her lap­top on Face­book was brought to my atten­tion recently. I was asked my opin­ion. I thought about it sev­eral times before I responded, and at one point, was tempted not to respond at all. The com­ments I read were steeped in…

Dealing With Criticism

It is help­ful to remind our­selves about the basic guid­ing prin­ci­ples of Real­ity when we are deal­ing with the crit­i­cism of oth­ers. When we get reac­tive to crit­i­cism, we turn crit­i­cal, just like them, and that only makes things worse. One of the basic guid­ing prin­ci­ples tells us that those around us are mere reflec­tions of…

Bullying the Bully In The Classroom Does Not Work — So What Does?

Our team has been research­ing to see what “reme­dies” are being offered for “bul­lies in the class­room,” and what we are find­ing is, “not much.” There are some good guide­lines to try and safe­guard it from hap­pen­ing, plac­ing the brunt of respon­si­bil­ity on already over-burdened teach­ers with num­bers beyond their capac­ity in the class­room to keep…

How Are Bullies Made, Really?

I have been learn­ing so much about the ori­gins of bully energy from writ­ing my work­book for Teach­ers and Par­ents on Bully-Free Con­scious­ness this past sum­mer. I have taken my work with adults to the kids in our life and allowed them to show me what kids do with these con­cepts! I find that kids catch on…

Helpful Tips for Furthering Enlightenment

photo credit: lul­ule­mon ath­let­ica Here are some help­ful tips for ground­ing and fur­ther­ing your progress towards peace: 1. Start your day with a delib­er­ate focus on align­ing with Source. a. Read some­thing inspi­ra­tional to set the tone, and go, as if to a secret meet­ing w/ your beloved, to a pri­vate space set up some­where in your home…

My Limiting Story About You …

I have car­ried a lim­it­ing story about you. Now don’t pre­tend you don’t have them too — sto­ries about the world based on often lim­it­ing judg­ments and assump­tions about lit­er­ally every­thing and every­one you know. This is not a good or bad thing. It’s a human thing! Cre­at­ing ‘sto­ries’ is some­thing most all of us, if not every human being, shares…

Mind Chatter

The mind keeps us engaged with its inces­sant chat­ter. Its pur­pose is obvi­ous. It must keep up a con­stant chat­ter­ing to hold us cap­tive in our own unique, designed-just-for-us-fear-based story. To allow any space in that men­tal run-on would be to risk the dan­ger of our dis­cov­er­ing that we are not the stress­ful, lim­it­ing, and exceedingly…

2012, A Year of Decision — Will We Go Forward or Back?

Happy New Year! I want to thank you, and all of my read­ers, for your tremen­dous sup­port through­out the past year! Your responses to my blog posts, and other writ­ings inspire me to keep writ­ing about the prin­ci­ples and tools of aware­ness that have helped me and those around me to bring greater har­mony and more peace into our lives…

Peace, Our Choice

We live in such a beau­ti­ful world, a gar­den of end­less pos­si­bil­ity. If we believe life is a junk­yard, we get to live there. We can be the “junk­yard dog!” If we believe it’s all about pomp & cer­e­mony, we expe­ri­ence that, or we might choose a world­view that lands us in a cos­mopoli­tan world of glit­ter & crime, or…

Melodrama or A Passionate Life?

I recently lis­tened to a friend vocal­ize protest against peo­ple she described as being “so melo­dra­matic.” She said her stom­ach clenches when­ever she gets around peo­ple who are “into drama,” and then con­fided to me that she had long ago decided not to live her life with dra­matic dis­play, but with intro­spec­tive deco­rum instead. I under­stand. I am a per­son who has been guilty of…

Counting Our Blessings, Christmas, 2011

I decided to share a Christ­mas let­ter with you count­ing bless­ings for 2011. May it inspire you to count your own! Greet­ings! I pray this let­ter finds you and yours enjoy­ing a peace­ful, if not joy­ful, sea­son, and that you are look­ing for­ward to a bright new year! Since the hol­i­day sea­son is a time to remem­ber back over the…

Hand in Hand With Source

Dur­ing my daily prac­tice recently I was, as I often am, vis­ited by fears of unkind pos­si­bil­i­ties and omi­nous things to come. I felt the panic that comes with think­ing thoughts like, “bad times are com­ing and I don’t think I can deal with them.” Rec­og­niz­ing that I was get­ting caught up in the fear swirl gen­er­ated by such thoughts, I turned inward…

How Do We Get Out Of The Victim Loop?

Recently a sub­scriber asked this ques­tion: “How I can be an observer of my being in observer con­scious­ness? How can I pull back from my own obser­va­tions of the man­i­fes­ta­tions of my own thought processes in order to see clearly where I am going wrong and where I can alter course to go right?? All I can see is the fog of my own thoughts (results of…