The Three Faces of Victim — An Overview of the Drama Triangle

The Drama Triangle

By Lynne For­rest Whether we know it, or not, most of us react to life as vic­tims. When­ever we refuse to take respon­si­bil­ity for our­selves, we are uncon­sciously choos­ing to react as vic­tim. This inevitably cre­ates feel­ings of anger, fear, guilt or inad­e­quacy and leaves us feel­ing betrayed, or taken advan­tage of by oth­ers. Victim-hood […]

Alignment, Surrender, and Grace; The Three Sisters of The Divine Feminine

Every morn­ing now, since Decem­ber 16, 2006, I’ve been meet­ing and “danc­ing” with my Inner Beloved. Eight years of com­mit­ted loy­alty to my One True Love. I go to my mat in the early morn­ing hours, aris­ing often while it is still dark, and in the win­ter, I make my way to my “inner sanctuary” […]

Rescuing “Professional” Victims Makes Matters Worse!

Res­cu­ing those who play vic­tim as their pri­mary mode of sur­vival not only pro­motes a vic­tim lifestyle, but may in fact be a major con­trib­u­tor to it.I am NOT say­ing we should not help oth­ers.How­ever, to truly help some­one there must be reci­procity.Humans need to feel use­ful and capa­ble in order tode­velop the self-esteem needed […]

Fighting Addiction … does it really work?

Resist­ing our addic­tions does not help us elim­i­nate them. Let’s use the exam­ple of smok­ing. When we think of our­selves as addicted to smok­ing, who do we become? Remem­ber when we believe it, we auto­mat­i­cally feel and act is if it’s true … So it fol­lows course then, that if we believe we’re an addict, […]

Going Down Into Our Innermost Darkness … For Consciousness Sake

I went down into the dark­ness for two whole days recently. It was a VERY dark time emo­tion­ally … I felt angry and hope­lessly exhausted with no end in sight. I had spi­raled into old famil­iar ter­ri­tory, into the “I’m never going to real­ize the rewards of my hard efforts” story that has been with […]

Using the Guiding Principles During the “Hard Times”

The news con­cern­ing my health was not what I wanted to hear. The lab report that brought the news was part of a screen­ing for a clin­i­cal study I was apply­ing for to test a new drug pro­to­col for Hepati­tis C, a con­di­tion I was diag­nosed with in 2001. The news was dis­ap­point­ing for two […]