Philosophy of Commitment

Every one has an opti­mal growth pace and find­ing that pace is part of the learn­ing process. Progress is uniquely indi­vid­ual. I’ve found that clients that ben­e­fit most from this process are those will­ing to com­mit the time and per­se­ver­ance to fully doing the price­less and essen­tial work of get­ting to know self, whether that means jour­nal­ing, guided indi­vid­ual work or a long term group com­mit­ment. When there is a full invest­ment in the process then it becomes life-changing. It is a process that requires the open-ness and will­ing­ness to con­front our uncon­scious places. At the same time, there is no right or wrong way to do the work. There is no pat for­mula for success.

Each indi­vid­ual must find the way that works best for them. There is how­ever, a uni­ver­sal block to progress and that is the ten­dency to become crit­i­cal and judg­men­tal of the things we are dis­cov­er­ing about our­selves. When we do that, the pain of illu­mi­na­tion becomes too great, caus­ing us to inevitably slide back into denial and unconsciousness.

My com­mit­ment to you is to prac­tice an atti­tude of uncon­di­tional accep­tance as I hold up the mir­ror for you to see your­self more fully. Your chal­lenge is to learn to love your­self regard­less of what you see there.This is the ulti­mate com­mit­ment — to learn to be gen­tle with your­self even as you uncover, per­haps unat­trac­tive, dys­func­tional defenses from your past. My goal is to offer a safe envi­ron­ment for you that is con­ducive to growth and per­sonal explo­ration. In return I expect you to take 100% respon­si­bil­ity for your own recov­ery and life process as you become increas­ingly aware of the ways you have not done so in the past. By ini­ti­at­ing a process of per­sonal growth you are truly embark­ing on your very own “hero’s jour­ney”. It is a jour­ney that only you can take.

I am will­ing to walk along beside you for short stints and point out stum­bling blocks as I see them. But I can only pro­vide guid­ance and sug­ges­tions. You .are the expert on you and that means that you must be the one who decides if those sug­ges­tions are right for you. You are the ulti­mate author­ity on your process.

My com­mit­ment is to respect your right to choose your own direc­tion and not try to enforce some idea I might have of what you need. I will sup­port you in learn­ing to bet­ter trust your life deci­sions how­ever, by teach­ing you how to attune with your inner­most truth. The first step towards begin­ning a more pos­i­tive rela­tion­ship with your­self and the world around you is to con­tact me for a per­sonal inter­view. I invite you to take that step soon.

Men­tor­ing by phone is also avail­able if you live out­side per­sonal vis­it­ing range. Con­tact me by email or call (423) 698‑0814 for more infor­ma­tion or to sched­ule an appointment.